Visit planning drama
A visit is supposed to be a happy time right? Well not for my SO and I. We've had many ups and downs, but we finally get to do our first visit this month. But here's the whole story:
After being together for over a year, we really needed to be together. I had already planned in my head to go up for the summer. Only thing was, I told my mom of this. At first she was like "I'll go with you" and things were cool. But then I heard from my brother in reality she was freaking out about going up. Like she thought we were going to get murdered or something. God mom, it's Canada. So she later convinced me that he should come down, it'll be cheaper to buy just one ticket, AND that he's allowed to stay in our house. When the plan was for us to go up, mother was only planning about 4-5 days since she had to take off of work. I didn't like that so much at all, and I thought to myself since he's coming down he can stay longer.
So my SO began looking for jobs, which didn't turn out so well. I think he went to one interview, but still nothing. I had a job, so as I saw the weeks go by I started to save up my money just incase. There was even a time where he told me that it looks like it wouldn't happen. This would've been our third failed visit and I couldn't accept that for an answer. So I told him that I would pay for his ticket and make sure he personally gets down here.
Then a ray of hope shined through, it was his parents. He talked to them, because one he didn't feel right about borrowing money from me and not giving it back, and two, he still needed his passport and some spending money. So they agreed and he began his passport process, woot. Things were hunky dory, but the only thing is we had to wait til a certain point to know when he was getting his passport. So we didn't book any tickets early on...
There's where the next problem goes in, when we finally look at the tickets, they were $100 more than what they were before. I only work on the weekends, so my paycheck isn't all that. I got worried because now the tickets were out of my price range. I was worrying and trying to figure out a way to make it work, it was so stressful. But two days later my SO said he told his mom about the situation, and says his family will pay for the ticket, and I just give them half when he gets here. Oh I felt so relieved, should've seen the smile on my face. Everything seemed near perfect right?
Wrong. Mother noticed me in the ticket looking process and she asked what dates I was putting in. Basically, she thought we were still doing the 5 day thing. I was like "wtf mom". Her reason? She has to take off from work, because we can't be left alone. Why can't we be left alone? Because we'll have sex. C'mon mom, have some decency. This is the first visit, I'm sure we're not even going to get to that. *ahem* Anyways, mother is strict on her 5 day thing. But my SO wants to stay for two weeks. He can't get a hotel, not enough money and no transportation. I don't know why she thinks a week is too long, she has a load of excuses. It's really frustrating both me and my SO. And now my SO's parents are against the 5 day thing cause it seems like a waste of THEIR money, since they're paying for the ticket. So basically it's 4 against 1 with the two week thing; she's just screwing things up. Like my SO was going to book his ticket this Tuesday, but it's put on hold until this situation is resolved, ugh.
I've talked to mother about this so much, but she's so stubborn. Then afterwards I feel weak and depressed. I tried letting her know that this was my visit, not hers, but she doesn't listen. Now because of all this my SO doesn't like her very much, and he says he's never going to come down again after this. *sigh* I'm hoping to get my SO's mom and my mom on webcam to discuss hopefully today. They're buying the ticket tomorrow, no questions asked. If she doesn't let him stay here, I got a backup plan from my brother. He has a friend who has an apartment in walking distance, so he could maybe stay there while mother is at work or something. We'll see, I'll have a talk with her about it and report back here.
But yeah, that's my story of the most complicated visit ever. I just really needed to get it all out. And you can imagine all the stress I have about now, phew. But hopefully everything will somehow work out and I'll have my baby here by next week =D
After being together for over a year, we really needed to be together. I had already planned in my head to go up for the summer. Only thing was, I told my mom of this. At first she was like "I'll go with you" and things were cool. But then I heard from my brother in reality she was freaking out about going up. Like she thought we were going to get murdered or something. God mom, it's Canada. So she later convinced me that he should come down, it'll be cheaper to buy just one ticket, AND that he's allowed to stay in our house. When the plan was for us to go up, mother was only planning about 4-5 days since she had to take off of work. I didn't like that so much at all, and I thought to myself since he's coming down he can stay longer.
So my SO began looking for jobs, which didn't turn out so well. I think he went to one interview, but still nothing. I had a job, so as I saw the weeks go by I started to save up my money just incase. There was even a time where he told me that it looks like it wouldn't happen. This would've been our third failed visit and I couldn't accept that for an answer. So I told him that I would pay for his ticket and make sure he personally gets down here.
Then a ray of hope shined through, it was his parents. He talked to them, because one he didn't feel right about borrowing money from me and not giving it back, and two, he still needed his passport and some spending money. So they agreed and he began his passport process, woot. Things were hunky dory, but the only thing is we had to wait til a certain point to know when he was getting his passport. So we didn't book any tickets early on...
There's where the next problem goes in, when we finally look at the tickets, they were $100 more than what they were before. I only work on the weekends, so my paycheck isn't all that. I got worried because now the tickets were out of my price range. I was worrying and trying to figure out a way to make it work, it was so stressful. But two days later my SO said he told his mom about the situation, and says his family will pay for the ticket, and I just give them half when he gets here. Oh I felt so relieved, should've seen the smile on my face. Everything seemed near perfect right?
Wrong. Mother noticed me in the ticket looking process and she asked what dates I was putting in. Basically, she thought we were still doing the 5 day thing. I was like "wtf mom". Her reason? She has to take off from work, because we can't be left alone. Why can't we be left alone? Because we'll have sex. C'mon mom, have some decency. This is the first visit, I'm sure we're not even going to get to that. *ahem* Anyways, mother is strict on her 5 day thing. But my SO wants to stay for two weeks. He can't get a hotel, not enough money and no transportation. I don't know why she thinks a week is too long, she has a load of excuses. It's really frustrating both me and my SO. And now my SO's parents are against the 5 day thing cause it seems like a waste of THEIR money, since they're paying for the ticket. So basically it's 4 against 1 with the two week thing; she's just screwing things up. Like my SO was going to book his ticket this Tuesday, but it's put on hold until this situation is resolved, ugh.
I've talked to mother about this so much, but she's so stubborn. Then afterwards I feel weak and depressed. I tried letting her know that this was my visit, not hers, but she doesn't listen. Now because of all this my SO doesn't like her very much, and he says he's never going to come down again after this. *sigh* I'm hoping to get my SO's mom and my mom on webcam to discuss hopefully today. They're buying the ticket tomorrow, no questions asked. If she doesn't let him stay here, I got a backup plan from my brother. He has a friend who has an apartment in walking distance, so he could maybe stay there while mother is at work or something. We'll see, I'll have a talk with her about it and report back here.
But yeah, that's my story of the most complicated visit ever. I just really needed to get it all out. And you can imagine all the stress I have about now, phew. But hopefully everything will somehow work out and I'll have my baby here by next week =D
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