Originally posted by Black_Halloween
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Just want to clear that up, plus don't really appreciate my opinion being called "rudely stated", especially considering it wasn't the ONLY thing I said.
I also said - "she is being a hypocrite" - and I still think that. It's rude and disrespectful for her to be so demanding from him and then leave him hanging to worry about her.. but my point is that it should be sorted out between the TWO of them, he can't run off to her family/friends for answers - THAT isn't a functioning relationship between two people. that turns into a place where she obviously doesn't feel comfortable and it's just a band-aid to the problem of her not communicating and holding up her end of the relationship. It also completely takes the focus off the issue of HER communication being the problem here and pushes the focus onto him being the issue with him involving other people in the issues (by checking up with her/asking personal things from a friend). He needs to stop that, they need to have a functioning relationship at 100% WITHOUT him going to other people for answers. The two people in the relationship need to sit down and have a talk, he needs to air out all the issues with her (again, without others being involved, needs to be the two of them)
Also, from his OP he really didn't give the impression that it was so extreme in how long she took to reply and how long he waited before he asked the sister, I wouldn't be bothered if my SO sent my mum/sister a msg asking if I was ok (after quite a few hours/maybe the next morning depending on the circumstances) but I rarely am so disconnected from communication so it would be alarming and worrying if I didn't reply for more than 5 hours (unless I'm asleep or at work).. On the other hand if my SO went to my friend to ask about issues that I clearly didn't want to talk to him about then that would NOT be ok.
They really need to talk and Aaron needs to decide if this is a relationship he can continue IF she doesn't improve her side of the relationship, relationships are a 2 way street with 2 people - she needs to lift her game and you need to give her the chance to without going to other people, next time if she doesn't respect you DON'T msg the sister.. wait it out until she texts you and then come down on her with the emotion you would have naturally, it's not fair for her to do that to you and its not fair for you to rely on other people for the answers.
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