She is Scared!!

[kyleomatic9]

Becca my dear girlfriend/best friend is scared. She is scared I will break her heart.

"I feel like you will meet someone else when you go off to college and i'm going to get heart broken. My heart isn't a toy. It was broken many times. Ripped apart and I have been sewing it back together. The wounds still hurt and it cant take being broken again - Becca"

This is just an example of one of the many things she has said to me over the last few days. I am not asking for you guys to recover my relationship, that is my job I know. Just help me with the words to say and how to say them! I have asked her for some time. We can work it out. I just think i need a little help?!

Our date shows only a week, but this has been going on long before the official date. If you guys can help me I will be more than grateful! I'd rather not lose her just before our summer starts.

[ams.201220]

I often got scared that my boyfriend would cheat on me because we were so far away, and really the only thing that fixed it was being able to trust him and take his word for things. I think the biggest thing for you to do is to be there for her if she becomes insecure. And tell her that. Let her know that you'll be there for her whenever she needs you to be. It may not be there all the time, but if she feels upset to tell you.

[kyleomatic9]

I feel like we are going around in circles. We have done this. I reassure her as much as i can. part of it is it sounds like she has given up!

[kyleomatic9]

Do you think I should suggest she look at this website?

[Hollandia]

Do you think I should suggest she look at this website?

Yes, this site is very helpful for us to understand that LDRs do work and you have to trust that your love can make it through the distance. If you don't mind sharing this as your place to vent then I think it might help her a lot. When you see how many others are going through the same thing it makes the path ahead feel less dire. When you read the success stories of some of our members it melts your heart. I don't know what I would have done without this place.

[ams.201220]

Do you think I should suggest she look at this website?

Definitely!!! But you do need to understand that this is a relationship and that it's a two-way street. If she can't trust you, then it doesn't matter what you do. My boyfriend would also try to befriend my friends because whenever him and I got into a fight, it was easier for my friends to be unbiased when giving me advice. And other than your SO, who better to talk to than your friends.

[kyleomatic9]

for now i just have been fighting for it for 2 days. Her mom said to give her time. It's just rather stressing. I don't wanna be a wimp. Losing her now would kill me, besides the fact i would look like a player once again.

Not a huge deal. Whatever is meant to be will be.

[kyleomatic9]

Its the moment when she just wants you to drop it. This is on the edge of falling apart.

[ams.201220]

for now i just have been fighting for it for 2 days. Her mom said to give her time. It's just rather stressing. I don't wanna be a wimp. Losing her now would kill me, besides the fact i would look like a player once again.

Not a huge deal. Whatever is meant to be will be.

It's really great that you said that because it means you're stepping up. I would just wait and see what she wants. Ask her about it too! Ask her what would make her comfortable.

[kyleomatic9]

She said to leave it alone for now. So I am trying.

[ams.201220]

She said to leave it alone for now. So I am trying.

I'm sorry. Let us know how things look when you find out more.

[LadyDaemon]

Do you think I should suggest she look at this website?

Yes,I think that would be a good idea. As others have said it will allow her to see that there are others just like her who are going or have been through the same things she is. It always helps a little to see when you're not alone in your situation,and that there are other people in the world who know what you're feeling.

for now i just have been fighting for it for 2 days. Her mom said to give her time. It's just rather stressing. I don't wanna be a wimp. Losing her now would kill me, besides the fact i would look like a player once again.

Not a huge deal. Whatever is meant to be will be.

I agree with what her mom said. It's ok to be there and reassure her and try to help her with it,but you also to a point need to let her come around on her own. You don't want to hang on too tight and overwhelm her to the point that she leaves you because she can't take the pressure.

Its the moment when she just wants you to drop it. This is on the edge of falling apart.

Not to be harsh,but you're assuming the worst before it happens. It may not be as close to the edge of falling apart as you think it is. Just give her some time.

[kyleomatic9]

When she says she doesn't have time to give. She says its over she dosent see a future. When she says she dosent know anymore. That's when I'm not assuming. This is escalating quickly.

[Hollandia]

When she says she doesn't have time to give. She says its over she dosent see a future. When she says she dosent know anymore. That's when I'm not assuming. This is escalating quickly.

It starting to sound like she is just making excuses to break up??

[kyleomatic9]

It starting to sound like she is just making excuses to break up??

I wish it didn't sound like that. For tonight she just said goodnight. I love you hasn't really come out of her mouth in awhile. I'm trying not to sound like a drama queen. She refuses to look at this site. I'm just lost now. I'm running out of tricks. I think all I can do is wait. Be there tell her I love her. That's about it.