No talking day...

[angeldi]

we couldnt do that lol

[angeldi]

trust is never an issue with us, the only reason we dont talk or miss a day is because of life situations. its never been a question if we miss each other because we do everyday =(

[TooFarAway]

I don't like the name "free day", it sounds kind of like your LDR is imprisoning you in some way It's good and healthy to do your own thing, there is nothing bad (or worth freaking out about!!) if there are days where you don't talk to your SO. It shouldn't be a test though, it's just life.

I agree with you! Don't call it a free day D:
And I don't know about you guys, but I get super cranky if I don't talk to my boo at least once a day. Communication just too important in an LDR.

[PrincessT]

I agree with you! Don't call it a free day D:
And I don't know about you guys, but I get super cranky if I don't talk to my boo at least once a day. Communication just too important in an LDR.

I concur, I also get cranky when I haven't spoken to him in a few hours good to know it's not just me.

[Iluvaray1121]

I agree. I tend to be cranky if we don't contact each other at least once daily, but i def. miss convo after a couple of hours..

[ThePiedPiper]

What's wrong with saying "do you miss me?" or asking for reassurance?

Once I tried this thing in my life, when my boyfriend hurt me and I felt really bad. I decided, that I had to see his feelings and I log out from facebook, skype and I didn't listen music on last.fm. In first day I hadn't gotten any calls, but in second day my boyfriend tried to connect with me 10 times by phone, so I picked up the phone and talked with him. It was really important for me, because he often forget about his phone - I'm calling and he isn't receiving. I'm feeling so awful, so useless... At such moments I think, he forgets about me... He forgets about the fact that I'm worried about him... He says that it is human to forget your phone, but I told him, that I need it to have contact with him. However, he still often forgets about his phone... I hate it, but I don't know what should I do to change his mind.

@marentora: If you've tried talking with him about it, then I think at this point, all you can really do is accept this as a quirk of your SO. If you talk on Facebook and Skype, maybe that's enough for him and maybe you simply have to accept that? I know my ex wanted more phone talk than I could afford and so until he was able to figure out himself, that was one way in which I had to put my foot down and say I simply couldn't do it. He had to accept that. He also liked to Skype a lot less than I did, and that was something I had to learn to accept. Sometimes you have to be content with what modes of communication you can get, y'know?

[angeldi]

couldnt live without hearing his voice everyday hehehe

[digitalfever]

I love having space and doing my own thing BUT I never test my SO. Why don't you just say I'd
love a day to myself and explain that you think it's fair that you both get a break from consistently being on your phone.

[LadyDaemon]

Well,I will echo what a lot of others have said here,it's immature in my opinion. This to me is like the relationship equivalent of the "Let's Play The Quiet Game" that 5 year olds play. It's good to have a day to yourself,but it's the manner in which you go about it. You don't just not speak to them out of the blue for one day and call that a "free day". You can get wires crossed with your SO by doing that and the fact that you would even have to go to such a measure "to see if they miss you" says that there is something wrong in your relationship that you need to fix.

[Chris516]

a 'Free day' can come round and bite you back in the butt. i think its a dumb idea personally!

personally i wouldnt tamper with ignoring your SO for the day. He may become pissed about it or start getting things in his head that you must be TOO 'busy' to be replying to him. and he'll just do it to you the next day.

I dont think its fair to be playing games when there is distance between you both! Dont get me wrong my SO will text me and il give it a few hours before i text back but he knows if i dont text im busy with work. I guess its up to you what you want to do.

I think this definitely is good advice.

[Bex2804]

As my SO and I are still in school we talk leave messages on facebook for each other when we can, then we talk for about 10-15 minutes during the afternoon on facebook and then we skype from 9-10 my time (his parents rules). It means we both can have our freedom and get on with our lives but still talk. Admitedly it's annoying sometimes if we go out and don't get back in time to skype but I always try to make him videos when I can as I don't know when he will have wifi so he knows I miss him still. I make videos and he sends me letters The arrangement works out okay, as i've just finished my exams I needed to focus on, and it gives me something to look forward too. My friend was in a LDR as well and they just broke up because they spoke every minute of the day and eventually the conversations got boring and meaningless for both of them. I wouldn't do a "missing day" as I think it would just worry my SO so much as he worries about me anyway!

[marentora]

What's wrong with saying "do you miss me?" or asking for reassurance?
@marentora: If you've tried talking with him about it, then I think at this point, all you can really do is accept this as a quirk of your SO. If you talk on Facebook and Skype, maybe that's enough for him and maybe you simply have to accept that? I know my ex wanted more phone talk than I could afford and so until he was able to figure out himself, that was one way in which I had to put my foot down and say I simply couldn't do it. He had to accept that. He also liked to Skype a lot less than I did, and that was something I had to learn to accept. Sometimes you have to be content with what modes of communication you can get, y'know?

I think, I should accept his strange phoning behavior... It's really hard for me, because I need his interest and I'm sick to death of his behavior ;// Maybe, you're right, that skype and facebook is enough for him, because we spend a lot of time there. But I take care of him and I need to know how's it going in his life. Sometimes I think with my friends, that he takes me for granted and forgets about my sacrifice ;( Because I always find time for him, even as I have important tests at school. I can't imagine my life without seeing him, hearing his voice, talking with him. I thought, that I get on with him and everything is perfect, because I love him and he loves me, but I miss him so much... Perhaps the fault is in my character and upbringing... I don't know. Fortunately he has a new money on his phone and yesterday he sent me some short messages and called me! I was so excited! Perhaps, I'm a bit jelous of my friends, who are in LDR and their boyfriends call them everyday, sometimes a few times a day, also to say 'good morning' and 'good night'.

[twinkle22]

i only speak to my SO a text or 2 a day and then skype maybe once a week if we are lucky.. sometimes 24 hours go by and we dont speak just because... i miss him everyday regardless! you shouldn't have to set yourself tests... bad idea in a normal relationship let alone an LDR