So, My SO is still annoyingly married to the woman who cheated on him and broke his heart back in 2011. I haven't said much about it or thought about it to be fair, i thought i was all underway with divorcing and stuff until today for some strange reason she come up in conversation and i kindly asked him if he was still married to which he replied yes my reaction was a bit bummed and i replied with why after you split so long ago?
He explained that because his still married he gets to live off base and doesn't have to live in there accommodation , So when he knew i was coming to visit he didn't want to file the divorce and me having to actually stay on base with him or us rent a hotel so i totally understand him and where he was coming from I'm glad i didn't jump the gun and act like a jealous GF. Although he did tell me she called him the day i flying in and asked how the both of us were. (pretty cheeky if you ask me) anyways he got mad and told her to stay out of his life.
After he explained why he was still married, i reassured him its not rush for him to get a divorce and i understand why his still married i get it. but then he said something that's thrown me back a little (in a good way)..
' Well now i kinda do, i just needed to wait until after you left. babe ive thought this over and over. i have a huge plan and there's a reason i said i wanted to wait until i met your family this December before we really started thinking about settling down '
I mean if this is what i think it is don't get me wrong i am going to be the happiest woman alive i truly will. he means absolutely everything to me and he makes me so happy. But on the other hand i don't want him thinking he HAS to propose to me you know (like as if he feels like I'm waiting for him too) i want him to do it when he feels like its right.
Does anyone get what i mean? been in the same kind of situation? I wont get my hopes up of course but i have a feeling he will be popping the question he did say he wanted to go about our proposal the 'old fashioned way' by asking my parents permissions as his last marriage was a bit of a rush thing before he was deployed. So it has got me thinking ...
He explained that because his still married he gets to live off base and doesn't have to live in there accommodation , So when he knew i was coming to visit he didn't want to file the divorce and me having to actually stay on base with him or us rent a hotel so i totally understand him and where he was coming from I'm glad i didn't jump the gun and act like a jealous GF. Although he did tell me she called him the day i flying in and asked how the both of us were. (pretty cheeky if you ask me) anyways he got mad and told her to stay out of his life.
After he explained why he was still married, i reassured him its not rush for him to get a divorce and i understand why his still married i get it. but then he said something that's thrown me back a little (in a good way)..
' Well now i kinda do, i just needed to wait until after you left. babe ive thought this over and over. i have a huge plan and there's a reason i said i wanted to wait until i met your family this December before we really started thinking about settling down '
I mean if this is what i think it is don't get me wrong i am going to be the happiest woman alive i truly will. he means absolutely everything to me and he makes me so happy. But on the other hand i don't want him thinking he HAS to propose to me you know (like as if he feels like I'm waiting for him too) i want him to do it when he feels like its right.
Does anyone get what i mean? been in the same kind of situation? I wont get my hopes up of course but i have a feeling he will be popping the question he did say he wanted to go about our proposal the 'old fashioned way' by asking my parents permissions as his last marriage was a bit of a rush thing before he was deployed. So it has got me thinking ...
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