I don't see how it's unreasonable to prefer your partner maintain a normal healthy weight. The difference between this and some of the other examples given is that weight can be controlled. Losing your hair can not. I would prefer my SO not be overweight and he prefers the same of me. That being said, neither of us are skinny so it's not like we're setting a model standard for ourselves or anything.
My ex gained a lot of weight during our relationship. At one point he was probably about 50 pounds heavier than when we'd gotten together. It wasn't a deal breaker for me, but if I'm honest, I wasn't as attracted to him as I previously had been.
I think love conquers all is a nice idea but the fact is we're a visual creature. Now maybe for some it's a deal breaker and some it's not, but we all like to find our partners attractive. And that means our definition of attractive, not the standard.
OP, I would be tactfully honest with him. If you try hinting, he'll get it any way and probably just be more insulted. I would take the direct but kind approach instead.
My ex gained a lot of weight during our relationship. At one point he was probably about 50 pounds heavier than when we'd gotten together. It wasn't a deal breaker for me, but if I'm honest, I wasn't as attracted to him as I previously had been.
I think love conquers all is a nice idea but the fact is we're a visual creature. Now maybe for some it's a deal breaker and some it's not, but we all like to find our partners attractive. And that means our definition of attractive, not the standard.
OP, I would be tactfully honest with him. If you try hinting, he'll get it any way and probably just be more insulted. I would take the direct but kind approach instead.
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