I think it's good to discuss hypothetical situations with your SO, mostly because...well, the future may be hypothetical in relation to now, but you get to find out if you two really are a good match for each other, isn't it?
Lots of people say you should know what your deal breakers are when it comes to SOs, so you know when it's wise to pursue the relationship further or not. You may love each other, have the chemistry and have a good time when you're together, but apparently, deal breakers are just that -- if it's irreconcilable, then it is. I mean, yeah, you don't know if you or your SO will be changing your/his/her mind in the future, but then you both may *not* change minds too.
I'm not being negative here. I have my own struggle myself, although mine is about me believing there is a God and he doesn't. Reading that sentence I just typed...boy, that sounds like it's going to be f*cked up. We've discussed it: he's fine if I don't push my religion on him (I tell him it's not a religion for me but a relationship with Him), and while I pray for him, I don't actively shove him to start reading a Bible and believing in God and converting (I don't do that to my non-Christian friends, and I don't believe you win souls for Christ that way, but that's another topic altogether). Then I just went for it and asked: marriage ceremonies, children and their upbringing...wait, I feel like I'm thread hijacking! Sorry!
What I wanted to say in my long, convoluted post is that I think we're sort of in the same boat with all this conflicted thoughts/emotions/everything. It's hard and scary, and all I can offer is an e-hug, really. *hug*
Lots of people say you should know what your deal breakers are when it comes to SOs, so you know when it's wise to pursue the relationship further or not. You may love each other, have the chemistry and have a good time when you're together, but apparently, deal breakers are just that -- if it's irreconcilable, then it is. I mean, yeah, you don't know if you or your SO will be changing your/his/her mind in the future, but then you both may *not* change minds too.
I'm not being negative here. I have my own struggle myself, although mine is about me believing there is a God and he doesn't. Reading that sentence I just typed...boy, that sounds like it's going to be f*cked up. We've discussed it: he's fine if I don't push my religion on him (I tell him it's not a religion for me but a relationship with Him), and while I pray for him, I don't actively shove him to start reading a Bible and believing in God and converting (I don't do that to my non-Christian friends, and I don't believe you win souls for Christ that way, but that's another topic altogether). Then I just went for it and asked: marriage ceremonies, children and their upbringing...wait, I feel like I'm thread hijacking! Sorry!
What I wanted to say in my long, convoluted post is that I think we're sort of in the same boat with all this conflicted thoughts/emotions/everything. It's hard and scary, and all I can offer is an e-hug, really. *hug*
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