Announcement

Collapse
No announcement yet.

How to bear it when you just leave?

Collapse
X
 
  • Filter
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts

    How to bear it when you just leave?

    I think the title is self-explanatory, but how do you actually make everything better when you have just gone back to the normal distance? I know organising new trips is a good idea but do people have any other?

    #2
    It does get easier with time. For me, the first 2 weeks after a trip are always the worst. I don't really do anything about it either. I allow myself to be sad, eat naughty food etc. Get into your normal routine again.
    After that it's already quite a bit easier to deal with. Just try and keep yourself busy with anything really. Time will fly and before you know it, you're already booking your next trip

    Comment


      #3
      thanks!!

      Comment


        #4
        For me just getting back into a routine helps. For instance, after a few days of us just skyping when he gets home from work and is done running errands, I look forward to our skype dates, instead of pining because I can't see him in the morning before he leaves for work. Good luck!
        So, here you are
        too foreign for home
        too foreign for here.
        Never enough for both.

        Ijeoma Umebinyuo, Diaspora Blues

        Comment


          #5
          I think the best thing to do is just let yourself grieve. It took me weeks to get back to normal after a month-long visit. My heart was broken.
          Let yourself have a week or two to recuperate and don't rush the process because it won't work. Also, of course make plans for the future. That helps.

          Comment


            #6
            thanks to everyone! I´m sure things will go back to normal again soon... it´s just, it hurts too much after a month long visit...

            Comment


              #7
              Everytime I come home from seeing my SO I'm back in work the same day, it keeps me busy and I work a ton of overtime, so I don't think too much lol, but it can't be helped, if we didn't feel this way they maybe we wouldn't love or care as much as we do, it's a good sign, just have to learn to control it really

              "Buddha made you for me" - My SO



              1st Met/Visit: Nov 2012 - Thailand
              2nd Visit: May 2013 - Thailand
              3rd Visit: Jun 2013 - Thailand
              4th Visit: Sep 2013 - Thailand
              5th Visit: Sep 2013 - Jan 2014 - UK
              6th Visit: Apr 2014 - Thailand - Marry
              7th Visit: Sept 14th 2014 - Thailand - Wedding Ceremony / Party
              Close the distance - Sept 21st 2014 - UK
              UK Wedding Party: November 8th 2014

              Comment


                #8
                I'm currently visiting my SO now.
                But when I left the last time it was awful. The first 2 weeks were horrible. My heart just ached.
                I let myself be sad and cry. It does get better.
                Just takes time. Getting back to work and school really helped me cope.



                Comment


                  #9
                  Getting back into your normal life ASAP helps a ton!

                  Comment

                  Working...
                  X