Hi I'll call myself C 
So I met this guy who is 19years old( I'm turning 18this month) through a penpal website. At first, we were just text friends and all that and then I started liking him (though we're just texting :s ). But at that time he had a girlfriend (whom he was planning to live with in the future.)Then this year on April he caught his gf cheating with two other guys(btw she cheated on him previously once but he forgived her) so he got so mad and broke up with her. And about a few days later we were chatting and he suddenly said that we would be a cute couple and then added that we should be in a relationship. Well of course I said yeah and I thought things were going well until he got a part time job. He works from 3pm to 11pm everyday(with one day off) and now he rarely texts me. I told him that I missed the old times when we used to text a lot and he said that we both have our own things to do(for him, work and for me, school work and exams) but he also said that he'll make the time. But I think he has plenty of time to text me cause he has like 10hours of free time(from the time he wakes up til he goes to work). And whenever we text each other he would always kill the conversation by saying Yeah No Wow Oh etc. Is he not willing to text me? I'm really confused because one day he told me that he has strong feelings for me despite of the distance but he won't text me that often. We had been trying to text more often but sooner or later he won't reply to my texts. My last text was the day before yesterday and he is still not replying to it. Oh and he even won't send a picture of himself while I do when he asks one. He gives excuses like his room is too dark but the switch is too far or it's morning and he has to go asleep.I don't want to be clinging nor do I want to annoy him. I really understand both of our situations but it's killing me. I've always thought about breaking up with him but whenever he texts me back, it washes away and moreover we haven't met in person yet so I don't want to easily break up with him until I meet him in person and know more about him.
So to sum up my questions.
Do you think he started a relationship with me because he really likes me or just because he wants to forget about his ex?
Do you think he isn't willing to text me?
Should I break up with him and just stay as friends until we meet up? If yes then how should I say it to him and still be friends?
If not then how should I maintain my relationship with him? (by the way we really don't have the time to video chat we only send instant messages to each other)
So I met this guy who is 19years old( I'm turning 18this month) through a penpal website. At first, we were just text friends and all that and then I started liking him (though we're just texting :s ). But at that time he had a girlfriend (whom he was planning to live with in the future.)Then this year on April he caught his gf cheating with two other guys(btw she cheated on him previously once but he forgived her) so he got so mad and broke up with her. And about a few days later we were chatting and he suddenly said that we would be a cute couple and then added that we should be in a relationship. Well of course I said yeah and I thought things were going well until he got a part time job. He works from 3pm to 11pm everyday(with one day off) and now he rarely texts me. I told him that I missed the old times when we used to text a lot and he said that we both have our own things to do(for him, work and for me, school work and exams) but he also said that he'll make the time. But I think he has plenty of time to text me cause he has like 10hours of free time(from the time he wakes up til he goes to work). And whenever we text each other he would always kill the conversation by saying Yeah No Wow Oh etc. Is he not willing to text me? I'm really confused because one day he told me that he has strong feelings for me despite of the distance but he won't text me that often. We had been trying to text more often but sooner or later he won't reply to my texts. My last text was the day before yesterday and he is still not replying to it. Oh and he even won't send a picture of himself while I do when he asks one. He gives excuses like his room is too dark but the switch is too far or it's morning and he has to go asleep.I don't want to be clinging nor do I want to annoy him. I really understand both of our situations but it's killing me. I've always thought about breaking up with him but whenever he texts me back, it washes away and moreover we haven't met in person yet so I don't want to easily break up with him until I meet him in person and know more about him.
So to sum up my questions.
Do you think he started a relationship with me because he really likes me or just because he wants to forget about his ex?
Do you think he isn't willing to text me?
Should I break up with him and just stay as friends until we meet up? If yes then how should I say it to him and still be friends?
If not then how should I maintain my relationship with him? (by the way we really don't have the time to video chat we only send instant messages to each other)
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