Greetings! My name is Luna, and quite obviously I'm a new member here. I found the list of (then 92) things to do from a distance and was inspired by the fantastic ideas.
Which brings me to the point of this lovely thread.
I am depressed, not as in moody or emo, I mean clinically depressed. Thoughts of suicide yatta yatta. And my boyfriend, Ryan, seems to be the only one, if anyone, who can cheer me up. In fact, the catalyst to our relationship was him stopping me from killing myself. I've gotten to the point of needing cheering up from him everyday. But the same old thing gets very old, as I'm sure a lot of you can understand.
I've been fortunate enough to meet him once (last summer) in person, but it wasn't an easy task. The flight out was ridiculously long and his family was not the most supportive group in terms of transportation as California is really stretched out. You have to go five miles in order to get to one thing etc etc. He is trying to get a job right now so he can get some money to fly out here for my graduation this year. He has never left the state and I think it will be fantastic for him to be in a totally different environment than the desert. Ryan and I are very committed to our relationship and plan on getting married in the near future (probably after we both graduate college, but either way). He gave me a promise ring and everything and I trust him with my life (and heart). The distance just takes it toll sometimes.
Getting back to my main topic, my depression has made our relationship quite difficult at times because I'll be so upset over nothing that I won't even be able to maintain a conversation with him. We've both tried the usual googling of "how to cheer sad girlfriend up" but the results are always "give her a kiss and a hug and cuddle with her on the sofa and watch a movie and go shopping with her and make her dinner and take her on a date to her favorite food place and...." you get the idea.
Is there any advice some of you more experienced couples have?
Thank you so much in advance, anything is welcome and you will be helping me with a two year problem.
(PS I apologize that this is so long and wordy, but everything is an essential detail.)
Which brings me to the point of this lovely thread.
I am depressed, not as in moody or emo, I mean clinically depressed. Thoughts of suicide yatta yatta. And my boyfriend, Ryan, seems to be the only one, if anyone, who can cheer me up. In fact, the catalyst to our relationship was him stopping me from killing myself. I've gotten to the point of needing cheering up from him everyday. But the same old thing gets very old, as I'm sure a lot of you can understand.
I've been fortunate enough to meet him once (last summer) in person, but it wasn't an easy task. The flight out was ridiculously long and his family was not the most supportive group in terms of transportation as California is really stretched out. You have to go five miles in order to get to one thing etc etc. He is trying to get a job right now so he can get some money to fly out here for my graduation this year. He has never left the state and I think it will be fantastic for him to be in a totally different environment than the desert. Ryan and I are very committed to our relationship and plan on getting married in the near future (probably after we both graduate college, but either way). He gave me a promise ring and everything and I trust him with my life (and heart). The distance just takes it toll sometimes.
Getting back to my main topic, my depression has made our relationship quite difficult at times because I'll be so upset over nothing that I won't even be able to maintain a conversation with him. We've both tried the usual googling of "how to cheer sad girlfriend up" but the results are always "give her a kiss and a hug and cuddle with her on the sofa and watch a movie and go shopping with her and make her dinner and take her on a date to her favorite food place and...." you get the idea.
Is there any advice some of you more experienced couples have?
Thank you so much in advance, anything is welcome and you will be helping me with a two year problem.
(PS I apologize that this is so long and wordy, but everything is an essential detail.)
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