okay so we've been together 10 months almost... and i have yet to tell my mum. there are two reasons for this
1. out of fear - when i was 14 i met my first serious boyfriend who was 16 at the time, she had a problem with the age gap and the fact i was still in highschool and he in college, she completely cut contact and went mad at me, took my phone and laptop off me.
2. this past school year has been my final year in highschool, so between coursework and revision for my terminal exams in may (the results determine if i go to college or not) she really really didnt want boys to distract me. which is understandable.
anyways, i'm 17 on the 2nd of september and my boyfriend (who is 18) is coming over for a week to visit (he's staying in a hotel with his dad) on the 24th of october. so i'm thinkin i should tell her now so she has time to get used to the idea, but i still have some fears.
1. that she will react in the same way she did when i was 14
2. she will try and stop me from seeing him in october - if worst comes to worst id litterally escape from my house to be with him...
preferibly, i dont want things to come to that, i just want my family to accept my boyfriend because he is such a nice and respectable person and i'm proud hes mine.
sooo, advice...
since ive left it kindof late to do the whole ' i have a friend in canada... i think i like this friend... now we're dating' thing.... i was wondering how is the best way to tell her? and what to do if she freaks out at me like she did when i was 14?
i have 5 days before i'm telling her, me and her are going on a vacation to cornwall and the drive is 8 hours so i'm thinking its the perfect oppertunity to tell her??
your adivce would be SO appriciated!
1. out of fear - when i was 14 i met my first serious boyfriend who was 16 at the time, she had a problem with the age gap and the fact i was still in highschool and he in college, she completely cut contact and went mad at me, took my phone and laptop off me.
2. this past school year has been my final year in highschool, so between coursework and revision for my terminal exams in may (the results determine if i go to college or not) she really really didnt want boys to distract me. which is understandable.
anyways, i'm 17 on the 2nd of september and my boyfriend (who is 18) is coming over for a week to visit (he's staying in a hotel with his dad) on the 24th of october. so i'm thinkin i should tell her now so she has time to get used to the idea, but i still have some fears.
1. that she will react in the same way she did when i was 14
2. she will try and stop me from seeing him in october - if worst comes to worst id litterally escape from my house to be with him...
preferibly, i dont want things to come to that, i just want my family to accept my boyfriend because he is such a nice and respectable person and i'm proud hes mine.
sooo, advice...
since ive left it kindof late to do the whole ' i have a friend in canada... i think i like this friend... now we're dating' thing.... i was wondering how is the best way to tell her? and what to do if she freaks out at me like she did when i was 14?
i have 5 days before i'm telling her, me and her are going on a vacation to cornwall and the drive is 8 hours so i'm thinking its the perfect oppertunity to tell her??
your adivce would be SO appriciated!
Comment