Ugh good morning everyone.
These past two weeks of my relationship have been absolutely horrible. My boyfriend is a cop and has a demanding and stressful schedule. The week of the 9/11 anniversary he worked like three 17 hour days and so was very exhausted by the time we got to speak that night. I know its not me, but when he gets tired and stressed like this I tend to take it personally and feel that hes bored of me or miserable with me. After that week, he went out all weekend with his friends, but was sure to kind of check in with me every once in awhile.
Then this past week things just really hit a snag. He started becoming very distant and very quick to brush off my "I miss yous" or "I cant wait to see yous" Then towards the middle of the week we ended up having this huge discussion about our relationship and his life. He started saying how stressed he is with work and his graduate school applications and how his life is just one big routine and how he wants to please everyone in his life, but is just so busy with work blah blah blah. To me it sounded like hes just over the whole relationship because of the stress it adds. The next day we talked a little, but it just was kinda distant. Then the next day he was perfectly fine and normal. Being the genius that I am, I decided that that would be a good day to discuss how I was feeling about the relationship. This was at 1am.
My boyfriend, knowing how our conversations go at 1am, quickly said that we would discuss the next day. We sent like two texts back and forth discussing our relationship. But then he just totally stopped discussing it. Went out with his friends and kinda texted me little things throughout the night. He called me when he got home and we talked for 20 minutes and then I went to bed.
I just am so hopeless. I can't tell if this is a sign that we are breaking up or if its a sign that we are just going thru a rough patch. He has to work overtime today so I would rather not stress him out anymore with how I am worried.
I want to be able to give him the space he needs to figure out all his stress, but I don't know how to do this without growing further apart. Suggestions?
EDIT: This morning I sent him a text telling him that I and his friends would be here for him once he has settled everything in his mind. AlL I got back was a "Thanks, love you."
It just makes me feel like I don't know how to make him happy anymore
These past two weeks of my relationship have been absolutely horrible. My boyfriend is a cop and has a demanding and stressful schedule. The week of the 9/11 anniversary he worked like three 17 hour days and so was very exhausted by the time we got to speak that night. I know its not me, but when he gets tired and stressed like this I tend to take it personally and feel that hes bored of me or miserable with me. After that week, he went out all weekend with his friends, but was sure to kind of check in with me every once in awhile.
Then this past week things just really hit a snag. He started becoming very distant and very quick to brush off my "I miss yous" or "I cant wait to see yous" Then towards the middle of the week we ended up having this huge discussion about our relationship and his life. He started saying how stressed he is with work and his graduate school applications and how his life is just one big routine and how he wants to please everyone in his life, but is just so busy with work blah blah blah. To me it sounded like hes just over the whole relationship because of the stress it adds. The next day we talked a little, but it just was kinda distant. Then the next day he was perfectly fine and normal. Being the genius that I am, I decided that that would be a good day to discuss how I was feeling about the relationship. This was at 1am.
My boyfriend, knowing how our conversations go at 1am, quickly said that we would discuss the next day. We sent like two texts back and forth discussing our relationship. But then he just totally stopped discussing it. Went out with his friends and kinda texted me little things throughout the night. He called me when he got home and we talked for 20 minutes and then I went to bed.
I just am so hopeless. I can't tell if this is a sign that we are breaking up or if its a sign that we are just going thru a rough patch. He has to work overtime today so I would rather not stress him out anymore with how I am worried.
I want to be able to give him the space he needs to figure out all his stress, but I don't know how to do this without growing further apart. Suggestions?
EDIT: This morning I sent him a text telling him that I and his friends would be here for him once he has settled everything in his mind. AlL I got back was a "Thanks, love you."
It just makes me feel like I don't know how to make him happy anymore
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