Anyone ever question your LDR?

[Benni]

I ran into an old friend the other day and told her all about my LDR with B. She was happy for me but she asked me this:

Don't you feel you're passing up other local opportunities that may also work for you?

Are you afraid of finding another love because you've invested so much time and money into this relationship and would regret that?

Hmmm........

There are a few men I've encountered. since meeting B, that I would be interested in if I wasn't already in a relationship. But not enough interest to take it further than friendship (although I know they would like more).

I have invested a LOT of money and over a year of my life into this relationship. Would I regret it if that were changed? No. I've grown immensely through this experience -- for the better -- and would never regret the experiences I've had because of him.

......What are your views on these questions?

[Deleted]

Ohhhh yes.

I think there are always going to be people that are in opposition of anything, and LDRs are no exception!

Of course there could be other people locally that could work out, but the reason I'm with my SO after all is because I think he's worth it, worth more than anyone near where I live! XD

[Brieasaurus]

Yeah. I feel like whatever you choose to do, you're sacrificing all the other options. Sure I may be passing out local opportunities for someone far away but the same goes for people who date CD, they're sacrificing the chance to meet someone that may be better for them for someone close. Just how life works haha.

I also agree that I wouldn't regret all the money and time. My relationship has helped me grow so much, especially in ways that a CD relationship wouldn't have done. It's helped me prioritize, communicate, even budget. I do like to think that the money we spend on plane tickets and such will eventually even out with the amount of money people who locally date spend on date nights and other activities though.

[Benni]

I do like to think that the money we spend on plane tickets and such will eventually even out with the amount of money people who locally date spend on date nights and other activities though.

That is a very good point!

[snow]

I do get questions like that from my family and friends all the time, but the thing is, I not only invested a lot of time and money into this relationship I also found what I always wanted in this person, giving that up to try and build it again with someone new would just be silly - you only find your soulmate once

Also there wouldn't even be anyone that would have interest in me, so there is really nothing I am missing out on.

[Benni]

Also there wouldn't even be anyone that would have interest in me, so there is really nothing I am missing out on.

No one else would have interest in you? Surely, there are others who would find you attractive, fun, and loving -- IF you weren't already in a relationship. That sounded so negative, darlin'.

[Moon]

Sure, but usually only from people who don't know me well. When they ask about money, I tell them I would have spent that traveling anyway, so what's the difference? And my guy is the perfect match, if I tried for that locally, it would take years and years. I don't get upset when they ask though, they just don't understand.

[aniay]

This Relationship for me is 'this or noone else'

I am not intrested in meeting anyone else, don't care about any other posibility because there is none.

And if it won't work out somehow I will never regret it and probably never love anyone this strongly again, if at all.

As far as I'm concerned its THE guy for me and we are going to grow old have bunch of kids and then grandkids.

[Ejoriah]

Surprisingly all of my friends have not questioned my relationship. It appears I was very lucky in my choice of friends (also I don't have that many, ha).

The one person who "questioned" my relationship is a former professor who told me that, since he lives far away, I was free to find someone to have sex with here. I kinda just rolled my eyes at that one.

[oxytocinbite]

[QUOTE=Ejoriah;314748

The one person who "questioned" my relationship is a former professor who told me that, since he lives far away, I was free to find someone to have sex with here. I kinda just rolled my eyes at that one.[/QUOTE]

Sounds like your professor wanted to have sex with you. Haha

[Benni]

Ok, I see that I worded the subject badly. I know that others question it, I've put up with a lot of that. I meant do any of YOU question your LDR relationship and what you might be missing out on?

[Moon]

No. Not at all. I've never met anyone like my guy, some local dude is no substitute, just because he lives in the same area I do. I know, I've tried, for practically my whole life I've tried. I've finally found the right one, regardless of where he lives, so I don't question it at all.

[snow]

No one else would have interest in you? Surely, there are others who would find you attractive, fun, and loving -- IF you weren't already in a relationship. That sounded so negative, darlin'.

Thanks, you're right. I remember I even talked to my man about it some time ago. He said there's atleast 3 people amongst our mutual friends who would probably try to get with me, if he was gone. But I guess they see us as the fairytale couple and wouldn't even remotely interfere while we're together.

[Benni]

Moon, I totally agree! I've never met such a decent man who treats me well. I'm so happy!

snow, see -- I knew you'd be interesting to others!

[RachelAnne]

I do get those moments sometimes where I wonder what it would be like to go back to normally dating somebody who lived close by, but I know I couldn't. I'm madly in love with my SO, and I think it's worth all the crap we have to go through to be together; even if we're apart the majority of the time.