Have You strted Making Plans?

[KeeperoftheAirmansHeart]

Hey Yall! =) I was wondering if any of you, mostly asking girls, tend too look too much to te future? Lol or plan things out a lot. I tend to do that A LOT. Lol i've already planned out how/where/wut time of year i want my wedding... how many kids i want and where i want to live. I know that you're supposed to really just take it one day at a time, which i do lol, but I like to feel like i've got a plan, something to look forward to and to ...well look as something you may be able to depend on. Or work off of.

So who all here has already made plans? Do you have baby names set, or anything like that? How you want your wedding to be? Haha... I think it's a girl thing... =)


Okay so for me... it's 2-3 children... I was thinking a girl last and 2 boys lol... but its not tht big a deal, i was just comparing it to ppl tht ik and movies/stories i've heard/seen lol. And i want a girl tht looks like my Bf and i, but w his dark hair and his personality, lol we decided tht we wanted her to be a bit of half in half. Lol, i remember that i've always cherished looking like my dad, and ik my bf is sexi (thou sometimes he disagrees) so I'm like... i'd love her to look like you =) Plus it's like anohter him walking around uk? Anyway, i cnt wait to have kids... well i mean that in a sense that i get excited about it because i think of how it's something we share and create together =) Lol and our parents would make gr8 grandparents... haha my mom cnt wait lol. ^_^ Anyway i'm trailing off lol OH! and we decided on Alexandra as a name bc alexander is a strong name.. which wld fit my bf lol, sooo =) If the girl looks like him tht's wut i'd like lol but we've got no idea wut we'll get. We may be pleasently surprised by something else lol

Wedding... Sometime hopefully in june on the beach! Yay! Sexi wedding! =) Oh! Right b4 sunset too lol

haha dont judge =)

[fcbella]

lol.. I always tend to daydream like that, but as life goes on "dreams" have only seemed to stay dreams.

I always said I would be married by 24, starting a family at 25. I'm now 25 dating a 20yr old who is not done school. I definitely won't be getting married any time soon . Also, I love love love kids... but as I get older I see the benefits on waiting to have kids (for me anyway).

As for the wedding... ever since high school I had the big dream wedding planned. Church (even though I've never been), amazing dress, hundreds of people. Heck, I even had my napkin rings picked out. lol

As I'm now getting older, I realize that's impossible! I have like 5 members of my family total, so I'd have to hire people to fill up my side of the church.. lol Also, if I end up moving to the US, it'll be with a fiance visa (which requires you to wed within 90days). No way in hellll I'll be caught dead planning a huge wedding in 3 months, while trying to get a life started in the states.

So lately I have been thinking of a wedding in vegas!! and then returning home and having a reception for both families. <---- as you can see, I'm still daydreaming my plans, even though they do change depending on my current life situations.

I think daydreaming is fantastic. Lets us see into ourselves more, and it's just sooo fun!!

[Alisz]

I think my boyfriend thinks about it more than I do tbh ^^;; He's the one who brings up the idea of us being married more than I do. Not that I complain :P He'll talk about how I'll be when I'm a mother and I always 'test' him questioning who the father will be. And he'll answer with, "Who do you think? ^_~" or something similiar. ^^ I do think about us being married together and how easy it would be and that I can totally see us living that way. I don't think too much on specifics cuz I'll probably end up winging most of it anyways XD

But then we both agree that we're taking things slowly and we shouldn't rush and we should just see how things go... except we're both thinking of the same thing lol We haven't even met in person yet (but that will hopefully change this April ), but we know that will only increase our love for each other and all these future dreams ^^

[Andy]

Tanja has made one or 2 plans in her head, I'm wondering if she's got a bit more planned than she's told me about though

Saying that, she has covered most things when we've talked about it! I'll let her reveal all

There's nothing wrong with dreaming, I think most people do it, but there's a famous quote I quite like, and it's certainly proved to be true with me! - "Life is what happens when you make other plans."

I think it's so true! I had an idea of what sort of age I'd be when I got married and settled down, maybe had kids but nothing too specific, I do think it's definitely more of a girl thing

But moving to live in Finland with a Finnish girl who's 5 years older than me wasn't exactly what I pictured when I was back in school! But I couldn't be happier with how it's turning out

[KeeperoftheAirmansHeart]

I totally agree with you on the daydreaming being awesome! =) I love it!!! ^_^ Haha.. hiring people for your wedding? That's hillarious lol. You know tht'd make a good movie/story, a story made out of day dreams =) Wut wld happen if we actually did them. Anyway, sidetracked, uk if you wanted you could just get legally married and start your life as thou you're just moving in together and have an official wedding when you feel ready for it. Unless you think a vegas wedding wld be more fun =)

[Veiled_Dreamer]

I haven't, not really. I can easily see us living together, and I know we don't want to live in NC, so I'll be the one that moves. Ummm, he mentioned a long time ago he wants a boy named Ethan. I want a girl named Scarlet Olivia. We want to get married like on a cliff or at sunset or in a gazebo or in a forest- somewhere all nature-y. =D I'm a vegetarian but he's not, we said if we have kids they'll be able to decide what they want to eat. He wants to be a martial arts instructor and he wants to work ridiculous hours so he can charge really low prices, and his honor means so much to him, I would love to see him able to do that. I'm probably going to end up as some kind of artist even though I know that's not a reliable career.

>.> Yeah, that's all I have.

[KeeperoftheAirmansHeart]

There's nothing wrong w being an artist. Lol, that's my major =) Ik it's not dependable,but it's my passion. Id rather live off of art and have no money than have money and be miserable and busy all the time =( Lol, and that sounds fun =) Wedding on a cliff, and Scarlet OLiva sounds likea BEAUTIFUL name =)

[Veiled_Dreamer]

He was the one that had the cliff idea. XD He knows a really pretty cliff where he lives, apparently.

And ironically I came up with that name because I was sort of in love with this guy who had the last name Harrah, and I thought Scarlet Olivia Harrah would be like Scarlet O. Harrah, from Gone With the Wind. >.>;; But my SO's of Irish descent so it works pretty well with his last name too. XD

[KeeperoftheAirmansHeart]

Haha, ik how you feel about names or ideas you've come up w exs that you really liked, but it just seems a lil weird w ur new bf. But i'm glad tht didn't phase you =)

[lunamea]

There's nothing wrong with dreaming, I think most people do it, but there's a famous quote I quite like, and it's certainly proved to be true with me! - "Life is what happens when you make other plans."

That's an excellent quote and very much what I live by. I've never had a lot of plans because my family has told me since I was a kid that things will usually turn out differently anyway. And they were so right! I never really wanted to get married or have kids, and then, at 23, I met my (now) husband and got married soon after! (the kids thing is still up in the air) So, plans are useless, I'd say. I feel bad when I see my girlfriends who've been talking about marrying and having children ever since we were teenagers and haven't met the right guy yet... they're pushing 30 and are very bitter about their plans not having worked out yet. That's why I keep trying not to plan anything... who knows where we'll be in a few years, after all? I apply the same kind of logic to my studies and (future) job... people always ask me what exactly I want to do and I don't know! I know I want it to have to do with English (that's why I'm studying it), but I have nothing specific in mind. I believe in fate, which really makes planning kind of superfluous.

[KeeperoftheAirmansHeart]

The job thing i do too! Lol, i just want something in art, but i haven't specified what yet. I'll take wutever jobs are avaliable when i get there. And although plans do tend to change, think it's always good to have some sort of way u want your life to go, or some sort of goal. I feel like im just floatig out in space if i dn't have something to go by, uk? And this may seem TOTALLY crazy to you, but i'm really organized and i usu plan out what i need to do the next day with lists, and often i'll make hr by hr charts. It just makes me feel more secure. The main negaitive(s) is that 1: You may miss a lot of oppertunites that just pop up bc it's diff frm your "plan" and 2: It can be incredibly disappointing if your plans dont go the way you want them to.

The most resent exp. ive had w this is when my bf is busy or if we planned out a date and it doesnt go the way i thought it would, or he'll go hang out w friends instead. Which i'm okay with, once i just chill for a sec lol, bc it's not the hangiing out i mind, it's "i'll do this, and i'll tlk to u @this time" but suddely says i'm watching a movie w friends instead. So i told him that if he wants to chill w friends it's fine, just don't promise anything to me tht you cnt keep. He's been really good abt it since... but I really miss tlking to him, bc i cn only tlk, for more thn 5-30 mins on he weekends. Still more thn others, which i'm DEFINATELY thankful for

[Jackie]

Nooo way! Haha. I've never ever been the type of girl who likes to daydream about marriage and babies and other future stuff like that. I think the most that I know is that I'd like to get married on the beach, but that's it! I don't even want children, so I definitely haven't thought of names, haha. And as for making plans with Chris, we don't really like to plan too far into the future because anything can change in a moment, and it's really heartbreaking to make a ton of plans and then have them shatter because something didn't work out. I do know that if we do want to move in together in the future (at least 3 years, I'm not done with school yet), I'd be the one leaving America and going to England, since he's joining the army there soon. That's about it though!

[KeeperoftheAirmansHeart]

Oh my, its going to suck when he joins the army =( Hha, and ik wut u mean abt it shatering ur dreams.

[lunamea]

The job thing i do too! Lol, i just want something in art, but i haven't specified what yet. I'll take wutever jobs are avaliable when i get there. And although plans do tend to change, think it's always good to have some sort of way u want your life to go, or some sort of goal.

Albeit what I said before, I agree that you should probably have *some* idea of where you're going, especially if you hook up with someone and can see it becoming a long-term relationship. It's then important to have similar views on life, especially when it comes to work and kids. A friend of mine broke up with her bf of 6 years because they didn't see eye-to-eye about having children - his "life plan" didn't include kids, hers definitely did. It's good to know these kinds of things early on, especially if it's something you're not going to change your mind on.

The most resent exp. ive had w this is when my bf is busy or if we planned out a date and it doesnt go the way i thought it would, or he'll go hang out w friends instead. Which i'm okay with, once i just chill for a sec lol, bc it's not the hangiing out i mind, it's "i'll do this, and i'll tlk to u @this time" but suddely says i'm watching a movie w friends instead. So i told him that if he wants to chill w friends it's fine, just don't promise anything to me tht you cnt keep. He's been really good abt it since... but I really miss tlking to him, bc i cn only tlk, for more thn 5-30 mins on he weekends. Still more thn others, which i'm DEFINATELY thankful for

Now, as far as short-term planning is concerned, I do that, too. With all the readings and papers for uni, I need a weekly schedule with deadlines etc. or I wouldn't get anything done.
I have the same "problem" as you with weekend plans etc.: I also like to know day/weekend plans at least a day in advance, just to know what to prepare for. Especially with the time difference, it's important for me to know when I should call home... if I know my husband or family have something coming up, we can work around it. Sadly, though, my friends as well as my hb's friends are very spontaneous and only make up their minds about what to do at the last moment, which also usually results in disappointment. Today, I couldn't talk to my husband at all because his friend only invited him for dinner (followed by going out) this afternoon and he was already out when I got up. All I got was an apologetic email and I've been down all day... (the original plan was talking and making tiramisu together... )

[folclor]

haha, I haven't really planned out much. ^^; I know i want at least a boy and a girl and I'd like to adopt one child. I've talked about that with my boyfriend and he's really into it, he said he really wants to be a father and the idea of adopting sounds great to him. Other than that? I think the wedding is something I'm going to have to plan out with whoever i end up marrying. I don't want to have a set idea because things don't always go as planned. Besides, it's more fun when both people have input, right? I used to have baby names picked out but now I don't think I do anymore. I really don't have any idea of what I'll name my children, I guess it all depends.

All I know is that when I think about myself and my boyfriend together I imagine a home, likely not too large of one, and, at least for now, him probably working 8-5 with me staying home and writing. ^^ That's as far as I know.