I wasn't sure where to stick this..here or the adult so I won't get graphic..

[loveonspeedial]

Hi everyone =D

I had a random thought/question.
My so claims they're coming down soon (before my trip to see them in 5 weeks).
But I mean, things change in her like day to day so anyways, not the point.

Point is, when you see your So, once a month, every 6 months, year and it's only for a day, a night, etc. Short period of time.

What is it exactly do you do? My so and I are both of the same gender so when we have to be intimate it can literally last all day and it has many a times, and I'm not sure if when we see each other if that's the best way to spend our time. Any advice, opinions?

[LadyMarchHare]

So long as physical intimacy on an adult level is not what you're solely after in the relationship I don't see the problem in using a bit of time to do that. It's natural, it's a physical showing of love. Heck I'd jump my guy's bones in an hour and that sort of thing is always at the back of my mind.

There's no right or wrong way to spend the time you have so long as you guys don't regret it when you part.

[Zephii]

We spent a lot of time being intimate. Because well, we got plenty of time to talk while we're LD :P We also spent a lot of time getting to know the other people in each other's lives.
We never had short visits though, as that wouldn't have been cost effective.

[Darth_Taco]

On short visits, I usually get violating out of the way. Once we're bored with that we go online and look at crap that makes us laugh while cuddling. We're simple like that :'D. I also feed him :P. He's so grateful :'D!

[XX, Lexi]

Me and Luke don't usually do short visits, due to the cost of it.
However, when we do see each other, I/he/we try to find things to do, such as go bowling, go to the movies, things we call "Normal Couple" stuff XD
We do get intimate at night and sometimes early in the morning when we both wake up.
I agree with LMH. As long as you enjoy what you're doing, there's no right or wrong way to spend time together.

[Tanja]

Zephii's got a good point: you can talk and talk and talk when you're LD but you can't be physically intimate and close like you can when you're visiting. There's nothing wrong with spending the time together in bed and enjoying each other's closeness to the fullest.

On our first visit Andy and I only left the hotel room to go eat and I don't regret it one bit!

[Èternity]

I agree, it's not a bad thing at all. If it's what you miss the most, go right ahead.

[MTK]

Spending some time getting some memories of you and your SO doing other stuff then each other could be fun and help strengthen the bond between you. Going to the movies or to a restaurent, taking walks, going to the zoo and being able to do something else then sit in front of the laptop at home is a welcome change of pace in my opinion. A well rounded visit with a little bit of everything throw in to it will provide for some good memories.
But you should do what you want to do not what you feel like everybody else wants you to do. If staying in bed all day is what you want, by all means pitch a tent there and don't leave until you absolutely have to.

[NaNi]

If you want to make love to her... do it. You don't need to ask people what you should do. Do whatever you both feel like doing!

[Bluestars]

Like everyone else says, if that is what you want to do, then do it.

We also have short visits; we used to see each other once a month, where my boyfriend would take four or five days off, but two of those days were completely dedicated to traveling, so in reality we only had two or three days together. Now, our visits are going to be every two to three months, but *hopefully* the visits can last at the minimum of three or four days at the least.

But when we have these short visits, we tried doing things to make memories that we would always remember. We completely jam pack those days so that we are going nonstop. We spend most of the time going out, traveling, etc., but we still make time for that intimate stuff. It can be hard to pack so much stuff into three days, especially because it gets to be exhausting, so we usually spend at least half of one day laying around

[annamorgan]

There's nothing wrong with intimacy on your visits, if that's something that you both miss and enjoy. Your visits shouldn't have planned events in my opinion, it should be whatever you feel like doing at the time, and if having intimate moments together is what you both feel like doing then so be it!

[loveonspeedial]

I understand, I just wanted to hear everyones feedback in the past if we spent all day in bed one day it wouldn't matter cause Id see her in a couple of days, but now it's every month.

[paulawriteslove]

I think that you should just, go with the flow. Let whatever happen, happen.

[noodle]

I'll join everyone else I guess as long as you and your SO are fine with it theres nothin bad about it ^_^

[LadyMarchHare]

I understand, I just wanted to hear everyones feedback in the past if we spent all day in bed one day it wouldn't matter cause Id see her in a couple of days, but now it's every month.

The visits aren't for going around town, they're for seeing your loved one. I'd be happy staying in my guy's apartment all day if it meant he was with me too.