The Exes talk. Have you had it? And exes on Facebook

[MeganK]

We talked about it, well really we have argued about it so many times.
its just annoying now. i never want to hear another word about his ex.

it might be selfish of me, if my SO has anything to do with his ex ever again
i told him id leave him. i have very good reasons for not wanting him anywhere near her.

[Tabitha]

We've talked about exes a little, just in passing conversation. We live in a city where none of our exes live. Not even close.

He doesn't have a facebook. I only have one ex on my facebook, and that's because he's still a very good friend. That ex is married with two kids and lives 1,000 miles away, so my SO doesn't feel threatened at all by him and he's very understanding of us keeping in touch.

[alesitag]

Well... just yesterday, he told me what his last ex looked like... he told me she is a suicide girl's model... my first thought after doing some research and watching some photos on google images was "I SO NOT LOOK LIKE ANY OF THOSE GIRLS!"...

I have no tattoos... I don't have a body like that... I don't cut my hair that way... I don't have any piercings... I don't look like a bad girl at all... I look nerdy and I'm chubby, so I asked him if that's what he likes and what he's looking for... and all he said was "that's my past, you are my present... I WANT YOU"

After that, I don't care about his ex anymore

[lyonsgirl]

We had the exes talk within the first month of our relationship. There were some things I couldn't keep from him any longer and I told him, "I need to tell you some things. If you need space or don't want to continue this after I tell you, I'll understand." Luckily he didn't want/need either of those things. He reminded me that was in my past. (Plus I only really talk to one of my exes and I highly doubt I'll ever see him again. My SO knows we talk, and he's okay with it.)

[lala]

I just saw that she commented on his facebook post.. nothing to worry but still I got jealous ((

[LoveJ]

Speaking of Facebook, how do you guys feel about the exes still being your SO's family's Facebook friend? Is it weird for you, or no big deal?

[lala]

Speaking of Facebook, how do you guys feel about the exes still being your SO's family's Facebook friend? Is it weird for you, or no big deal?

I recently checked out this one ex of him..she is friends with is brothers and some other friends.. but his parents also have albums of events where she is on the pictures and it pains me -.- I mean it is just normal that ex bf/gf are friends with family and friends.they can not delete them just because couples break up.. How do you feel about it?

[LoveJ]

I recently checked out this one ex of him..she is friends with is brothers and some other friends.. but his parents also have albums of events where she is on the pictures and it pains me -.- I mean it is just normal that ex bf/gf are friends with family and friends.they can not delete them just because couples break up.. How do you feel about it?

I don't like it, naturally, because when someone leaves a relationship, chances are they don't want to be reminded of it all the time, least of all by their family in being friends with them. My family stayed friends with my brother's ex after they broke up and he hated it, and I completely understand why. It's weird to move on and not feel moved on because those close to you are still close to them. It's like those past relationship ties are never broken, but always something you feel you have to measure up to if they're still around. On that note, if they're still around in people's lives, they can't be all that bad, making that feeling of measuring up pretty daunting.

[lala]

I don't like it, naturally, because when someone leaves a relationship, chances are they don't want to be reminded of it all the time, least of all by their family in being friends with them. My family stayed friends with my brother's ex after they broke up and he hated it, and I completely understand why. It's weird to move on and not feel moved on because those close to you are still close to them. It's like those past relationship ties are never broken, but always something you feel you have to measure up to if they're still around. On that note, if they're still around in people's lives, they can't be all that bad, making that feeling of measuring up pretty daunting.

but would you tell your family to delete your ex? I don't know if that would be ok.. I mean..hmm I don't know. difficult topic

[LoveJ]

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but would you tell your family to delete your ex? I don't know if that would be ok.. I mean..hmm I don't know. difficult topic

I asked mine to, because he and I don't talk anymore, nor do they to each other, so there's no reason for them to be on each other's.
Alternately, if you have a bad breakup with someone, and it bothers you that they have them on theirs, there's no harm in telling them how you feel about it. It's up to them what they do about it. Blood is thicker than water, after all, so you'd think your family should support you if it hurts you.

[alesitag]

I must say in this particular case, I'm still in contact with some of my ex's relatives (two cousins)... he unfriended me on FB, but hasn't done it with the rest of my family... I really don't mind, I know no harm can be done