Hey everyone I'm new to this.. but let's see how it goes!
I have been with me SO for just over 8 months. We were best friends for over a year before that. He is three years older than me and we get along amazingly. He is in the military and is stationed overseas. Our whole relationship consists of facebook messages and skype calls.
Over the summer, we broke up for a couple days. I was rude and he just pushed me away and out of the picture. After we got back together, he told me that he was sure that I was the one for him. No other girl could take my place.
Because he's in the military we have talked a lot about marriage and how to make both of our lives work out together. I started college this fall and he was worried we'd lose each other in the big change. We didn't and we actually grew a lot closer.
However, I struggled with how often I'd get to talk to him. Don't get me wrong, I fully understand how busy people in the military are. But there would be times when I just felt like I was always waiting around for him.
He had an exercise for a week and I'd only get a message or two a day from him. Which I expected. But then when he was done with it and he was off for the weekend, I didn't really hear from him at all. We had made plans to skype and catch up after his hectic week. He played video games with his brother over xbox instead.
So I finally asked him what was going on with us. I felt like he was dodging me. We hadn't said "I love you" in a week and we hadn't talked like a couple at all. He said he didn't know and he didn't wanna talk about it. Finally after a couple of days, I told him that I was tired of it. He got mad and yelled at me via Facebook message.
Finally, I sent him a message to break up because he wouldn't skype with me. I said a lot.. including, "I love you and I want to be with you, but I can't be right now".
Biggest mistake.
He didn't even really care. We all know how our SO responds to things.. how they act when they're upset. He didn't even sound like that. So I messaged him a four days later to clarify that I didn't do it out of anger.
He told me that he is over it. He's ready to move on and he EXPECTS me to do the same. WHAT. 8 months plus the promise of forever... and he's over it in FOUR DAYS. Worst part was that I could tell he was serious. Not covering up his feelings or anything. He said friendship was "up in the air for now" and that maybe it wasn't meant to be.
I have never in my life felt so sure of something. I discussed online schooling and everything just to go be with him. We made plans to close the distance. Now that's gone and I don't even have my best friend anymore.
What should I do? Get him back? Leave him be? I miss him like crazy. My heart actually aches. SOMEBODY HELP! however ya'll can, please!
THANK YOU!
I have been with me SO for just over 8 months. We were best friends for over a year before that. He is three years older than me and we get along amazingly. He is in the military and is stationed overseas. Our whole relationship consists of facebook messages and skype calls.
Over the summer, we broke up for a couple days. I was rude and he just pushed me away and out of the picture. After we got back together, he told me that he was sure that I was the one for him. No other girl could take my place.
Because he's in the military we have talked a lot about marriage and how to make both of our lives work out together. I started college this fall and he was worried we'd lose each other in the big change. We didn't and we actually grew a lot closer.
However, I struggled with how often I'd get to talk to him. Don't get me wrong, I fully understand how busy people in the military are. But there would be times when I just felt like I was always waiting around for him.
He had an exercise for a week and I'd only get a message or two a day from him. Which I expected. But then when he was done with it and he was off for the weekend, I didn't really hear from him at all. We had made plans to skype and catch up after his hectic week. He played video games with his brother over xbox instead.
So I finally asked him what was going on with us. I felt like he was dodging me. We hadn't said "I love you" in a week and we hadn't talked like a couple at all. He said he didn't know and he didn't wanna talk about it. Finally after a couple of days, I told him that I was tired of it. He got mad and yelled at me via Facebook message.
Finally, I sent him a message to break up because he wouldn't skype with me. I said a lot.. including, "I love you and I want to be with you, but I can't be right now".
Biggest mistake.
He didn't even really care. We all know how our SO responds to things.. how they act when they're upset. He didn't even sound like that. So I messaged him a four days later to clarify that I didn't do it out of anger.
He told me that he is over it. He's ready to move on and he EXPECTS me to do the same. WHAT. 8 months plus the promise of forever... and he's over it in FOUR DAYS. Worst part was that I could tell he was serious. Not covering up his feelings or anything. He said friendship was "up in the air for now" and that maybe it wasn't meant to be.
I have never in my life felt so sure of something. I discussed online schooling and everything just to go be with him. We made plans to close the distance. Now that's gone and I don't even have my best friend anymore.
What should I do? Get him back? Leave him be? I miss him like crazy. My heart actually aches. SOMEBODY HELP! however ya'll can, please!
THANK YOU!
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