Hello everyone,
I know many of you don't know me and/or don't remember me. I haven't been on in a while due to college and a full-time job.
My boyfriend and I are both in college and have been long distance/dating for over three years now. Needless to say, we're sick of it!
A dilemma has just arisen and I would love some advice or to talk to anyone who's "been there, done that". My boyfriend will be done with school in 3 semesters (Spring of 2015). Once he's done with school, I'll have about two years left since I'm two years younger than him. I just assumed (silly me) that he would come to where I am so we can end this stupid long distance once and for all. I just found out now though that he wants to go into a three year grad school program right after he's done and he's even going to apply to a prestigious music school in Germany (we both live in the US).
I feel like I can't take three more years. I was holding on because I saw the light at the end of the tunnel, but now what?
I want him to pursue his dreams, and I support him in every way, don't get me wrong. If he got into his dream school, I wouldn't guilt him into dropping it for me. I guess I just feel hurt that he wouldn't take the opportunity to be with me. I have dreams of taking fellowships in other countries and pursuing multiple degrees as well, but I was going to put that on hold to stop the long distance. Now I feel like if he's not willing to give some things up or put them on hold, neither should I.
Am I being incredibly stupid or stubborn? Should I fully and freely pursue my educational dreams if he pursues his, or should I put my own selfishness aside and take whatever opportunity I can, regardless of his actions?
Thanks to everyone who actually read all the way through that. Any and all advice is welcome!
I know many of you don't know me and/or don't remember me. I haven't been on in a while due to college and a full-time job.
My boyfriend and I are both in college and have been long distance/dating for over three years now. Needless to say, we're sick of it!
A dilemma has just arisen and I would love some advice or to talk to anyone who's "been there, done that". My boyfriend will be done with school in 3 semesters (Spring of 2015). Once he's done with school, I'll have about two years left since I'm two years younger than him. I just assumed (silly me) that he would come to where I am so we can end this stupid long distance once and for all. I just found out now though that he wants to go into a three year grad school program right after he's done and he's even going to apply to a prestigious music school in Germany (we both live in the US).
I feel like I can't take three more years. I was holding on because I saw the light at the end of the tunnel, but now what?
I want him to pursue his dreams, and I support him in every way, don't get me wrong. If he got into his dream school, I wouldn't guilt him into dropping it for me. I guess I just feel hurt that he wouldn't take the opportunity to be with me. I have dreams of taking fellowships in other countries and pursuing multiple degrees as well, but I was going to put that on hold to stop the long distance. Now I feel like if he's not willing to give some things up or put them on hold, neither should I.
Am I being incredibly stupid or stubborn? Should I fully and freely pursue my educational dreams if he pursues his, or should I put my own selfishness aside and take whatever opportunity I can, regardless of his actions?
Thanks to everyone who actually read all the way through that. Any and all advice is welcome!
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