My SO and I have dated for 3 months, we live 3 hours away from eachother, but we're young (both 21).
When we first started talking she would always initiate the conversations, but over time it's been more about me initiating and actually carrying the conversations. We met each other last-last weekend (Nov 1-3) and I told her multiple times that it's the happiest I've ever been. After seeing her my focus on wanting to be with her increased dramatically.
Since then though she's been piling on work and she gets home late & tired. When we talk all I can think about is wanting to physically be there with her, so I bring up the subject of moving to be there and she says it's overwhelming and that I'm moving too quick -- that I need to give her space to think, to be by herself.
I start a job on Monday that hopefully keeps me busy, but our plan was to move in with each other early next year (February-to-Marchish). Am I underestimating the amount of time her and I will have to talk about plans on moving in with each other? Am I silly to think that if we don't talk that she'll lose interest in me? I think these are the things that cause my clinginess.
Any pointers on how I should approach the topic in the future without being overwhelming? Clinginess?
When we first started talking she would always initiate the conversations, but over time it's been more about me initiating and actually carrying the conversations. We met each other last-last weekend (Nov 1-3) and I told her multiple times that it's the happiest I've ever been. After seeing her my focus on wanting to be with her increased dramatically.
Since then though she's been piling on work and she gets home late & tired. When we talk all I can think about is wanting to physically be there with her, so I bring up the subject of moving to be there and she says it's overwhelming and that I'm moving too quick -- that I need to give her space to think, to be by herself.
I start a job on Monday that hopefully keeps me busy, but our plan was to move in with each other early next year (February-to-Marchish). Am I underestimating the amount of time her and I will have to talk about plans on moving in with each other? Am I silly to think that if we don't talk that she'll lose interest in me? I think these are the things that cause my clinginess.
Any pointers on how I should approach the topic in the future without being overwhelming? Clinginess?
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