Hello all,
This is my first post. I think I need to have women's opinions on my LDR. I am not sure what to think. I'm going to try to keep it as short as possible.
I am originally from Paris and moved to California four years ago. About a year ago I was skyping with my friends from home and they were with this girl that they became friends with after I left Paris. A few days after, her and I started talking and we ended talking every single day using skype, phone, whatsapp... My friends visited me fours months later and she came along. This is when we first met and the connection was even stronger in real life. Everything went really well and she came back to visit me another time on her own for a month and I recently just visited her in Paris for two weeks. We are committed to each other. I love her, she loves me.
Throughout this time I have decided to move back to Paris within two or three years for business reasons and to be close to my family. She always told me that she would be flexible and would be willing to move to California for a year so we wouldn't have to be far from each other all the time. It meant a lot to me. So everything was still very positive and we both knew that we will end up living in Paris.
During my recent visit in Paris, she told me that she wasn't sure if she was still willing to move here anymore, which hurt me and made me feel like she wasn't willing to put effort into our relationship. I let it go and told myself that we would figure it out later on. While still in Paris, I also spent time with my family and friends and I still loved being in Paris. Once I came back to California, I realized that I wanted to be back in Paris sooner that I thought. I have now made the decision along with my girlfriend and family to move back in 3 months.
I am very exited about it and thought that she would feel the same. She just told me that she has been in a bad mood ever since I left (about 2 weeks now) and that she misses me every single day. This is where I am confused because at the moment she is not excited about this new decision. She says that she needs me now, would want to come back home to me and live a "normal" relationship and that this LDR is being difficult and frustrating. I went from wanting to move back in 2/3 years to 3 months! I couldn't ask for better and this is the time I need to sell everything I have here and basically move back. It's the first time that I see negativity in her behavior towards our relationship.
We spent 3 hours on Skype today talking about it and she says that she really loves me and was thanking me for being so nice when she's being immature (her word...). She said that she will get better soon and is not sure why she is acting this way. She also apologized for hurting me and not being excited with me.
We never fought, we always have had great communication, as a lot of you guys I'm sure since communication is the only thing we have for the most part. So this situation makes me feel weird and I am not sure what to think about it.
I tried to keep it short, so I am skipping a lot of details. I hope that everything makes sense. I am letting my heart talk and am not a good writer anyway...
What do you guys think is going on in her mind?
I am looking forward to any sorts of thoughts
Thank you!
This is my first post. I think I need to have women's opinions on my LDR. I am not sure what to think. I'm going to try to keep it as short as possible.
I am originally from Paris and moved to California four years ago. About a year ago I was skyping with my friends from home and they were with this girl that they became friends with after I left Paris. A few days after, her and I started talking and we ended talking every single day using skype, phone, whatsapp... My friends visited me fours months later and she came along. This is when we first met and the connection was even stronger in real life. Everything went really well and she came back to visit me another time on her own for a month and I recently just visited her in Paris for two weeks. We are committed to each other. I love her, she loves me.
Throughout this time I have decided to move back to Paris within two or three years for business reasons and to be close to my family. She always told me that she would be flexible and would be willing to move to California for a year so we wouldn't have to be far from each other all the time. It meant a lot to me. So everything was still very positive and we both knew that we will end up living in Paris.
During my recent visit in Paris, she told me that she wasn't sure if she was still willing to move here anymore, which hurt me and made me feel like she wasn't willing to put effort into our relationship. I let it go and told myself that we would figure it out later on. While still in Paris, I also spent time with my family and friends and I still loved being in Paris. Once I came back to California, I realized that I wanted to be back in Paris sooner that I thought. I have now made the decision along with my girlfriend and family to move back in 3 months.
I am very exited about it and thought that she would feel the same. She just told me that she has been in a bad mood ever since I left (about 2 weeks now) and that she misses me every single day. This is where I am confused because at the moment she is not excited about this new decision. She says that she needs me now, would want to come back home to me and live a "normal" relationship and that this LDR is being difficult and frustrating. I went from wanting to move back in 2/3 years to 3 months! I couldn't ask for better and this is the time I need to sell everything I have here and basically move back. It's the first time that I see negativity in her behavior towards our relationship.
We spent 3 hours on Skype today talking about it and she says that she really loves me and was thanking me for being so nice when she's being immature (her word...). She said that she will get better soon and is not sure why she is acting this way. She also apologized for hurting me and not being excited with me.
We never fought, we always have had great communication, as a lot of you guys I'm sure since communication is the only thing we have for the most part. So this situation makes me feel weird and I am not sure what to think about it.
I tried to keep it short, so I am skipping a lot of details. I hope that everything makes sense. I am letting my heart talk and am not a good writer anyway...
What do you guys think is going on in her mind?
I am looking forward to any sorts of thoughts
Thank you!
OK, I'm just teasing you, but I think you need to try to stop figuring her out for right now, and just let it be. It'll become clear once you get home, and you spend some time together, and her emotions settle down. Be patient for a little while longer.
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