Plans for Valentine's day <3

[Chris516]

Chris, I still wonder why your sentences have periods in the middle of them. I'm guessing that you're trying to say that Valentine's day comes every year, therefore this thread is still relevant.

That is my point.

[erwin1973]

Well... My plans originally were that I would leave next week to visit my SO, and still be there on Valentine's Dauy and have a nice candle light dinner. For various reasons that is not possible.
In stead, I sent her a carebox including a 3D-card with roses and a very nice poem written in it, and she'll get a bouquet with 24 red roses from me.

[sasad]

For once I actually agree with Chris on this one. It's just a post about what people are doing for Valentine's -- what does it matter when it was started. I don't see a big deal in resurrecting old threads anyway, if there's a new discussion to add to it. But yeah, every one should probably just chill out. Too much bitterness for a support group forum. Lol oops hope that doesn't raise more hackles.

Again, read my post, i never said dont post said the threads were old and as she has posted on way old threads, that some peeps were no longer here . That being said, no more comments really need to be made as Michelle posted. Let.it.go.

[80anthea]

It's a Friday, so I'll probably watch 'Have I got News for You'.

Haha, well in 3 years my attitude towards V-day hasn't changed, except this year I might watch Harry Potter

[hmrambling]

3D-card

I was looking at some very neat pop-up cards (found them when I googled lesbian valentine's day cards.) Did you make the 3D card or did you buy it?

[erwin1973]

I was looking at some very neat pop-up cards (found them when I googled lesbian valentine's day cards.) Did you make the 3D card or did you buy it?

I bought it.
But I put a self-made poem in

[C.C.]

My attitude towards this day is decreasing more and more as I grow up.

At first I used to think of it as one of the most important holidays and felt sad when I as single. Then I thought of it as just another way to hang out/spend time with your SO and nothing special in and itself. Right now I am really indifferent.

Might watch a movie with my former SO* and have a webcam call with him, that's all.

*(I don't know what term should I use at all anymore, someone who is both former SO and someone I hope is the SO in future too again but not currently?)

[sasad]

My attitude towards this day is decreasing more and more as I grow up.

At first I used to think of it as one of the most important holidays and felt sad when I as single. Then I thought of it as just another way to hang out/spend time with your SO and nothing special in and itself. Right now I am really indifferent.

Might watch a movie with my former SO* and have a webcam call with him, that's all.

*(I don't know what term should I use at all anymore, someone who is both former SO and someone I hope is the SO in future too again but not currently?)

I agree.. used to be special when I was younger, but now its more like a Hallmark Holiday instead.. I think too much is put on seriousness and pressure to get the best and the biggest love type gifts tbh. My SO does special stuff for me at different times as I do for him, from our hearts, not when a day dictates it. I do get stuff for my kids tho

He is your friend.. And I hope it all ends up the way you need it too.

[C.C.]

He is your friend.. And I hope it all ends up the way you need it too.

Oh he is now, yes, but referring as such here wouldn't exactly do its job in letting people know who I am talking about and I don't want to use the name on public forums. I'll go with first letter maybe.
Thank you, by the way That's what we are hoping for as well realistically, that however it ends will be the best outcome for us, together or not.

Also, to not offtopic too much, a quote from my favourite movie: "Random thoughts for Valentine's day, 2004. Today is a holiday invented by greeting card companies to make people feel like crap."
I don't think it makes many people feel like crap or anything but I agree about it being too emphasised by different kinds of companies that offer Valentine's Day gifts.

[erwin1973]

I don't think it makes many people feel like crap or anything but I agree about it being too emphasised by different kinds of companies that offer Valentine's Day gifts.

Depends on how you look at it, imho. If you only do something special on Feb14, yes, it's commercial. But if you do it all the time and take a little step extra, then imo it's just being sweet and remindful.

I sent my SO cards and poems all the time. Only this time it's a bit bigger.

[snow]

I think people get way too bent out of shape for this holiday. No one says you gotta buy all that crap for your SO and spent thousands of dollars. It's a day to celebrate your SO and be grateful for the relationship you have. Just like Mother's Day or Father's Day, all you really have to do is say "happy XY" and that's that. You love your mom all year, but you do put a little more effort in on Mother's Day to make her feel special, right? That's really all it is.

This year, I plan on making him a nice card and then we'll probably play some games together. I actually really like that he asks me if I want to be his Valentine every year ♥

[sasad]

Depends on how you look at it, imho. If you only do something special on Feb14, yes, it's commercial. But if you do it all the time and take a little step extra, then imo it's just being sweet and remindful.

I sent my SO cards and poems all the time. Only this time it's a bit bigger.

That's the problem... Its become so commercial.. You HAVE to do dinner, flowers, candy etc. We actually have an anti-V-day... we stay in, where pj's, eat spaghetti or something and watch movies that have explosions!
Seriously, its what you make it and what you all like.

[hmrambling]

I definitely agree that Valentine's day is very commercial. Most holidays are. I try to find something different and do something different. Last year, my SO cooked a steak dinner. It was awesome. That was a really good idea because I live in one of those cities that has booked up reservations months in advance. Dining in and having a good steak dinner at her house worked out just great for us, plus we got to cook together. We did have a joke about getting reservations at Waffle House, though, because some of the Waffle House locations are taking reservations are offering candlelit dinners, putting red table cloths on the tables, as well as flowers on the tables. hahahaha

For this year, though, we haven't planned to do anything on Valentine's day itself. Our plans are the weekend following. It happened that there's a local singer in town that she likes so I got tickets. The venue is on the edge of a college so the tickets were really affordable. And I've been wanting to try this farm to table restaurant, so we'll eat there first. It's like two birds with one stone.

In all honesty, I really think she's clueless/indifferent about Valentine's day and probably wouldn't give it a second thought if I didn't spell it out for her that we needed reservations because we're going out the weekend following Valentine's day.

[Sparkling72]

I concur with the commercialism of Valentines Day. Long story short, both of our Ex's were very selfish people... wanted gifts for V day, but didn't want to do anything in return. I quit giving a sh*t about it after a while and just doing my own thing - treating myself to a massage, pedicure, etc. HIs Ex expected elaborate gifts. most of the time they weren't even very heart felt bc it made him sick at how much she expected him to spend on her. I told him it would make me sick if he did spend that much on me!! We have better things to do with our $. He also said he wanted to buy me flowers or gifts unexpectedly, when he wanted to surprise me, not because society says you have to do something on this day.

We had both had the valentines day discussion... I told him I didn't really care about it and he agreed but said that everyday with me is like valentine's day (awe). But, since SO is deployed (omg I am so depressed, but saving that rant for another thread) and I wanted to send him a care package anyway. I decorated the inside of the box with heart paper and bought some cheesy stickers and put it on all the snacks and toiletries that I put in there. He also destroyed his ipod, so I bought him a cheap knock off and loaded it up with music and put that in the package as well. I know it will make him happy. He's only gotten care packages twice in the 20 years he's been in... and one was from his mom... such a shame.

[ThePhoenixRises]

I agree with the above posters - it is way too commercial for me and I have never really celebrated it. It isn't really a big deal in my country - and I don't think my SO's country really celebrate it at all! This year, we will be together on that date as I am visiting him for three months, but it certainly wasn't planned that way, I just happen to be going to him in Feb. I probably won't even notice it - as he is taking me to the Alps that week for some skiing etc. so it probably won't even occur to me, as I seem to lose track of days and dates when I am on holiday with him

I would rather do something nice for my guy just because I love him and like to spoil him - not because of a certain date on a calendar that tells me I should, I guess it is kind of the expectation that you have to go all out and do something big. For me, it doesn't matter.

That being said - if you enjoy it and you celebrate it - I say go ahead and enjoy! After reading some of the posts on here - there are going to be a lot of SOs with a big smile on their face on Feb 14