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    Post visit blues

    Most of us have had it and know that it sucks and hurts more than just about anything.
    I just went through it a few days and then had the pain reinforced with the news that a friend of mine and his long distance GF broke up and it was super discouraging since I'd -just- messaged him asking how he did it (they were further apart than my SO is from me).
    So it's just super hard and I'm getting into that paranoid, worried, scared, miserable mindset. It's not a good combo.

    How have you gotten yourself out of the blues? Tips? Advice?
    And every breath we drew was Hallelujah

    #2
    I don't really have any good advice, just I will be going through similar in a few days, although I will be insanely busy and our next visit is already planned! So I have something to look forward to.

    Be kind to yourself. Go out for a walk, or meet your friends, start a workout routine. Do something constructive that makes you feel good. And chocolate. LOTS of chocolate!

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      #3
      I let myself be miserelable and cry for the first day/evening/night. Don't know how I will manage this next coming departing though as I have the kids with me (we will probably all escort him to the airport). So I can't really let myself go for it but I know I will be very sad.
      I've noticed the only thing that helps is time. The first few days/first week is the hardest and after that it gets easier and getting back into routine. After a while I feel normal again. Been busy helps. And also if there is a date set for the next visit.
      I find it hard that before the visit I am already dreading the good bye
      Also we have only gotten to do short visits (long weekends).

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        #4
        Next visit how I plan to cope with post visit blues is this:
        Talk to my so forhand, create a strategy
        Try to stay with the feeling. Dont pretend to be brave, as that will only make me cold
        Sleep alone (I usually sleep with my husband but I will not on the first night)
        Exchange pictures of our time together
        Call /text /Skype with SO a lot the first 24 hours
        Let life slowly go back to normal routine. Stay busy. Work, school, housework, see movies, read etc.
        Calling my bf on it if he closes up. Make extra room og to be intimate.
        Start planning the next visit!
        I made love to him only twice, she thought and looked at the man laying asleep beside her. And yet still it is as if we have been together forever, as if he has always known my life, my soul, my body, my light, my pain
        - Paulo Coelho, "Eleven minutes"



        "Bız yüzyılın aşkı vardır" - We have dated since Sept. 2013. To see our full story, click here https://members.lovingfromadistance....and-our-visits

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