Getting nervous...

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First, I think it is totally normal for you to be having these thoughts. Everyone in an LDR has them from time to time and you're going to try to close the distance at some point, right? I think that you will need to decide what you really want to do and then talk to your SO and get his opinion. All of us on here think differently (as noted from the different responses) but it is your life and choice. Like lyonsgirl said, it could cost a good amount to move prior to your lease being up. I would ask your landlord the fees and find out if that would be something you can afford. Being able to afford moving is another thing you need to consider. Teaching is a very versatile job but would you need to get certification in every state that you move to? If you and your SO do marry, you could be moving during the school year and would have to leave students. Don't forget that dreams can change and who says you can't be career driven and married or living near your SO? Personally, I would do research and then go from there. Change is scary but if it's something you feel is right for you, then don't let fear stop you.

Hi Heavenly,
I have thought about the whole moving during the school year if he has to if we were to marry thing, that is something he and I would have to talk about before actually making any decision... we have touched on it. But further in detail. I have also had many thoughts about the certification process.

Thank you for pointing out that dreams change. I have of course been through that before but other times it seemed to just happen this time with a move I would have to be more proactive than I have been at other crossroads. But again, thank you for reminding me of that.

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You can practise your career everywher. Money is just money, it comes and goes, if you can afford to give up your apartment I'd totally say go for it! I think you regret more the things that you don't do that the ones that you do.
P.S. I am in New York right now, and it's freezing!

You are right, money is just money... that is hard to me to actually accept even though I know it is true.
Thanks for your response! I am sorry that you are visiting right now haha!

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Wanting to be with the man you love is perfectly normal. In fact, it would be weird if you didn't. Sometimes you go with your heart, not your head. Life is short, and we have no certain number of days promised to be on this planet. If you can find a way out of the lease and want to go, I'd go. Go with your gut, because our heads always fight that. Your reasons will never match your heart's desire. I have so many regrets in this life, and I don't want to add another one. If I had the chance to move to my SO, I would.

Some folks meet and marry after only a few months, because they know. They know they are right for each other. You are old enough to know what you want in life.

That's just my opinion, but I'd listen to your heart.

Thank you so much pirate. This is in fact, the first time that I have ever known. As freaking crazy as that sounds and feels.
My head thinks it is crazy, my heart thinks it is the most awesome thing ever in the universe.

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What are your work uppertunities if you move around with him? Can you save up some money before you go? If you wait until sept, there will be only one year left of your lease. Would that make it easier ti get out of the contact, or possability Subletting to someone the last year? I you want to marry him, and know him, why not?

You're right... why not? I feel that no matter what... I am going to marry him. We are going to live together and I might be the one to move. Whether I stay for another year is what I am debating I guess. I have a good chunk of changed already saved, which my mom pointed out that although I have it for emergencies... starting anew would be a valid reason to touch it. Teaching jobs at schools can be rough to find all over the US, but I have managed pretty well so far with some determination, networking and a bit of luck. With my two degrees (Physical Education, BS and Health Education, MS.Ed) other educational opportunities are open to me as well (recreation centers, community centers, dance schools, gyms, etc.) So although I love being in the classroom, who knows where I could share my love for the subjects and spreading knowledge of/on them!