My boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly six months, long distance the whole time. He'd been really distant and uncaring for the last month in a lot of our discussions, including ones about me going to visit him for the first time. Finally I asked him what was up. After a long pause he said "I guess I'm just losing some of those feelings." I, of course, saw this coming but was devastated nonetheless. I asked him if it was something I did. "No, pretty much just me." I asked him if there was anything I could do to fix it. "I don't really know.." After a loooonnggg interval of me sobbing quietly, I finally asked him what the wanted to do.
"Shhh. Everything is going to be okay. I still want to be with you. I just have to work on getting those feelings back. I love you."
Some important notes:
- he was sweet as heck up until a month ago
- he takes depression medication which I sort of think may be the cause of his apathy.. but he's been taking them for a long time
- my feelings have never fallen out of the love-stage, even when I get angry and even after being neglected
- this is my second LDR, but it's his first
Is this uncommon? Could he just be sparing my feelings (I asked him this and he said no)? What can I do to bring those feelings back for him? Would a visit now be the best or worst thing for us?
"Shhh. Everything is going to be okay. I still want to be with you. I just have to work on getting those feelings back. I love you."
Some important notes:
- he was sweet as heck up until a month ago
- he takes depression medication which I sort of think may be the cause of his apathy.. but he's been taking them for a long time
- my feelings have never fallen out of the love-stage, even when I get angry and even after being neglected
- this is my second LDR, but it's his first
Is this uncommon? Could he just be sparing my feelings (I asked him this and he said no)? What can I do to bring those feelings back for him? Would a visit now be the best or worst thing for us?
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