Hello guys
I don't know what to do, or think, I feel so anxious these days, so sad, confused, mad!!!!!!!!!!!! and I feel like I'm going crazy.
My SO and I have been together for almost two years now. In those two years I've visited him twice. First I spent Christmas with him in December 2012, I was there for a month, and it was our first meeting!!! I paid the first flight, because I wanted to do it, he just helped me pay my travel insurance for that time, and of course when I was staying at his place he paid most of the food, didn't let me pay anything, he was a wonderful host.
Then I visited him again for summer, in July 2013, and I spent 3 months there with him. This time we both shared expenses... he paid a bit more, most of the cost of the flight ticket. We had been surviving to this long distance relationship so god so far, I've sent him so many presents, we chat so often in skype, spend quality time together, we got our long distance bracelets too!!!! I can just feel our relationship became stronger.
This year, we had agreed he would visit me in Mexico for the first time, I think it's time, and it's fair since I've already flown to see him twice. I would like he would come for easter vacation (in April) it's when I'll have two weeks free, and it will also be my birthday. He says at the moment he doesn't have any money, and it is difficult to buy him a ticket... These days I've been telling him to buy the ticket so much, because right now there are some deals. 600 euros, for a round trip, and normally tickets are 1000 euros! I also told him I would help him pay the ticket with 200 euros, it's not so much, but it's what I have. And of course when he is here, I'll be in charge of paying for food and entertainment as he did.
He says he has no money for the ticket, but I don't know if that's really true. Today he said something like "I'm not sure if this is a good idea", and he made me think, he doesn't really want to come!!! I feel bad cuz almost everybody here, who is in a long distance relationship, all your SOs have traveled to see you...
Some people call my country "third world" and sometimes I think he's afraid of visiting the "third world"... it is so pretty here, and honestly I can't wait for him to know here, try the food from here, meet my family, my friends, etc.
I know I should be more patient, but I can't wait to see him. We've been arguing for 3 days! he says I've been putting so much pressure on him with this, and now I don't know what to think or do. I don't want to force him to come and see me, I want him to do it because he wants to!
But I know that if I don't mention the topic, he will just forget about it, cuz he's a person who doesn't like to plan things... and I don't work like that... I always like to have a plan, work on it, stick to it, and achieve it! if there's no plan, I feel like I'm dead, you know...
It's like days are passing without knowing where I'm going, or when I'll see him again.
He wants me to move with him by August, that's great, I want it too, but do you think is it cool to move, when he never visited me before????
Do you think I should keep insisting on making him come in april??? or just forget about the topic, don't mention it and let him come when he wants to come???? :/
I sound like a psycho , and I've become so nervous, I get anxiety and sometimes out of the blue I get depressed. When I am working, I don't feel it, but when I am at home, goshhhhh, I just think of him, the distance, and it kills me.
I don't know what to do, or think, I feel so anxious these days, so sad, confused, mad!!!!!!!!!!!! and I feel like I'm going crazy.
My SO and I have been together for almost two years now. In those two years I've visited him twice. First I spent Christmas with him in December 2012, I was there for a month, and it was our first meeting!!! I paid the first flight, because I wanted to do it, he just helped me pay my travel insurance for that time, and of course when I was staying at his place he paid most of the food, didn't let me pay anything, he was a wonderful host.
Then I visited him again for summer, in July 2013, and I spent 3 months there with him. This time we both shared expenses... he paid a bit more, most of the cost of the flight ticket. We had been surviving to this long distance relationship so god so far, I've sent him so many presents, we chat so often in skype, spend quality time together, we got our long distance bracelets too!!!! I can just feel our relationship became stronger.
This year, we had agreed he would visit me in Mexico for the first time, I think it's time, and it's fair since I've already flown to see him twice. I would like he would come for easter vacation (in April) it's when I'll have two weeks free, and it will also be my birthday. He says at the moment he doesn't have any money, and it is difficult to buy him a ticket... These days I've been telling him to buy the ticket so much, because right now there are some deals. 600 euros, for a round trip, and normally tickets are 1000 euros! I also told him I would help him pay the ticket with 200 euros, it's not so much, but it's what I have. And of course when he is here, I'll be in charge of paying for food and entertainment as he did.
He says he has no money for the ticket, but I don't know if that's really true. Today he said something like "I'm not sure if this is a good idea", and he made me think, he doesn't really want to come!!! I feel bad cuz almost everybody here, who is in a long distance relationship, all your SOs have traveled to see you...
Some people call my country "third world" and sometimes I think he's afraid of visiting the "third world"... it is so pretty here, and honestly I can't wait for him to know here, try the food from here, meet my family, my friends, etc.
I know I should be more patient, but I can't wait to see him. We've been arguing for 3 days! he says I've been putting so much pressure on him with this, and now I don't know what to think or do. I don't want to force him to come and see me, I want him to do it because he wants to!
But I know that if I don't mention the topic, he will just forget about it, cuz he's a person who doesn't like to plan things... and I don't work like that... I always like to have a plan, work on it, stick to it, and achieve it! if there's no plan, I feel like I'm dead, you know...
It's like days are passing without knowing where I'm going, or when I'll see him again.
He wants me to move with him by August, that's great, I want it too, but do you think is it cool to move, when he never visited me before????
Do you think I should keep insisting on making him come in april??? or just forget about the topic, don't mention it and let him come when he wants to come???? :/
I sound like a psycho , and I've become so nervous, I get anxiety and sometimes out of the blue I get depressed. When I am working, I don't feel it, but when I am at home, goshhhhh, I just think of him, the distance, and it kills me.
But, those differences are what makes life interesting, so yeah, I'd keep pestering him about it. He might surprise himself and fall in love with the place. I know I'm looking forward to going back there one day!
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