Hello,
Me and my boyfriend have been in ldr for 7 months and it's 2248 km separating us. We meet almost every 2 months at least for a weekend, I know that it doesn't sound that bad... but after the last time we have met something has changed: all this situation we are in became much harder and more tough to bare for both of us. It has always been harder for him to keep calm about missing but now everything became so confused we both feel lost even though we mean so much to each other and are each one's reasons to smile every day. It's extremely sad to see him that upset and sometimes it seems that he is obsessed with the idea that breaking up would stop the pain he is suffering from and the only thing stopping him is the fear to hurt me. I don't want to have a relationship based on a fear... I know we both are having a hard time right now and both are suffering as much... Just it is hard to find words how to comfort him when he stops seeing positive things, good memories together, the possible solution in the future and something good in general... Especially it got intense after one talk when we almost broke up. The situation is tearing my heart and I wish we could find a way out of here but as we both are students it gets far more complicated. Maybe someone of you has been in a similar situation as I am right now? I'd really like to receive an advice.
Me and my boyfriend have been in ldr for 7 months and it's 2248 km separating us. We meet almost every 2 months at least for a weekend, I know that it doesn't sound that bad... but after the last time we have met something has changed: all this situation we are in became much harder and more tough to bare for both of us. It has always been harder for him to keep calm about missing but now everything became so confused we both feel lost even though we mean so much to each other and are each one's reasons to smile every day. It's extremely sad to see him that upset and sometimes it seems that he is obsessed with the idea that breaking up would stop the pain he is suffering from and the only thing stopping him is the fear to hurt me. I don't want to have a relationship based on a fear... I know we both are having a hard time right now and both are suffering as much... Just it is hard to find words how to comfort him when he stops seeing positive things, good memories together, the possible solution in the future and something good in general... Especially it got intense after one talk when we almost broke up. The situation is tearing my heart and I wish we could find a way out of here but as we both are students it gets far more complicated. Maybe someone of you has been in a similar situation as I am right now? I'd really like to receive an advice.
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