Hi there!
Basically I live in Bristol and I met this gorgeous girl from Pittsburgh 2 years ago through a mutual friend on Facebook. We started chatting a bit on Facebook and then after a few months started Skyping. We got on really well and I found that I really liked her and thinking if only she lived in England...
We were talking one day and she had just broken up from her boyfriend and she started telling me about this university she was going to in January. I was already going to go to university in September but she invited me to come over for a few months to apply to university in Pittsburgh and see places around the States. So I decided to, thinking it was a golden opportunity. It was a struggle to find a job, save for a ticket, save for spending money, trying to find a work and manage to get a visa. But in the end I got there and we clicked instantaneously. It was like love at first sight. She's cute, she's beautiful, funny and clever. I really won't find anyone else who is like her. I started thinking about marrying her pretty early and while I was drunk I told her and she was shocked but over the moon. We are always talking about our future together and everything looked like it was going to work out!
But I found I couldn't afford the tuition loans so we applied to 5 universities in England. We both got into Oxford Brookes, however, because she is foreign and needs loans, she needs someone with enough credit to cosign for her. Her grandparents are rich and have excellent credit but are reluctant to cosign for her, even though her gran will happily spend tens of thousands of dollars on lawyers for her son who is in the mafia and scalped his girlfriend. This is looking like our only route. And it's looking bleak. We're so good together and I can't think of life without her, but I'm only 19 and the only way I can see myself getting a green card is by marrying her. I'd have to get a fiance visa and marry her within 90 days. This is awkward because of our families. There is nothing more I'd love to do than marry her, but NOW? I don't know if I'm ready. I have an offer from university in England to study but it would have to be without her. I really want to be back in education. She can't get residency in the UK without living here for 2 years without being able to work. If I moved to the US and married her, I would have to give up on university and work unless I can find a company to reimburse me. I can't even look for work until I have a green card. I'm so unsure about this, it's risky. I just feel so bad because I feel like I got our hopes up, and I'm just cutting off every chance of being her.
My heart says marry her, I may have a degree and stable lifestyle, but I won't be happy without her and I know I'll never find anyone like her. My head says that it would be risky, I may not get a job, I'll probably end up taking another year out of university which is important to me, and I need to stop forgoing spending on things like health because I am saving for spending money in America. Any advice what I should do?
Basically I live in Bristol and I met this gorgeous girl from Pittsburgh 2 years ago through a mutual friend on Facebook. We started chatting a bit on Facebook and then after a few months started Skyping. We got on really well and I found that I really liked her and thinking if only she lived in England...
We were talking one day and she had just broken up from her boyfriend and she started telling me about this university she was going to in January. I was already going to go to university in September but she invited me to come over for a few months to apply to university in Pittsburgh and see places around the States. So I decided to, thinking it was a golden opportunity. It was a struggle to find a job, save for a ticket, save for spending money, trying to find a work and manage to get a visa. But in the end I got there and we clicked instantaneously. It was like love at first sight. She's cute, she's beautiful, funny and clever. I really won't find anyone else who is like her. I started thinking about marrying her pretty early and while I was drunk I told her and she was shocked but over the moon. We are always talking about our future together and everything looked like it was going to work out!
But I found I couldn't afford the tuition loans so we applied to 5 universities in England. We both got into Oxford Brookes, however, because she is foreign and needs loans, she needs someone with enough credit to cosign for her. Her grandparents are rich and have excellent credit but are reluctant to cosign for her, even though her gran will happily spend tens of thousands of dollars on lawyers for her son who is in the mafia and scalped his girlfriend. This is looking like our only route. And it's looking bleak. We're so good together and I can't think of life without her, but I'm only 19 and the only way I can see myself getting a green card is by marrying her. I'd have to get a fiance visa and marry her within 90 days. This is awkward because of our families. There is nothing more I'd love to do than marry her, but NOW? I don't know if I'm ready. I have an offer from university in England to study but it would have to be without her. I really want to be back in education. She can't get residency in the UK without living here for 2 years without being able to work. If I moved to the US and married her, I would have to give up on university and work unless I can find a company to reimburse me. I can't even look for work until I have a green card. I'm so unsure about this, it's risky. I just feel so bad because I feel like I got our hopes up, and I'm just cutting off every chance of being her.
My heart says marry her, I may have a degree and stable lifestyle, but I won't be happy without her and I know I'll never find anyone like her. My head says that it would be risky, I may not get a job, I'll probably end up taking another year out of university which is important to me, and I need to stop forgoing spending on things like health because I am saving for spending money in America. Any advice what I should do?
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