Who is busier? You or your SO

[curious_gal518]

Hi everyone,

I can assume that everyone is busy and I'm interested to know who is busier - you or your SO? And how do you manage your time around each other's schedules?

To start off, I'm busier between us two right now. I am almost finishing grad school (1 week deadline for the thesis minor revisions), I have a sporadic part time work that consumes most of my free time, and transitioning into a full time job in two weeks at a different company. My SO, on the other hand, works 1-3 a week and finishing up his portfolio so he could try to CD with me. So he has more time to spend than I do.

We send messages to each other throughout the day and sometimes we call when we're both free.

What about everyone else's?

[Heavenly_Love12]

For my SO and I, it really just depends. When my job was on 12 hour shifts, the days I worked I would definitely be busier. I would be at work for 12 hours and we would only have a small period to talk, either before or after I got off work depending on the shift I was working. I began working on my Master's this past Autumn so I had school work to help keep me busy on my days off. My SO works full time but has a more traditional 8 hour a day work schedule although the shifts vary.

Now, he is going back to school and will be in training for a new job while I am working 8 hour shifts and am on break from school until August! I believe he will be busier than me in these next few months due to all the down time I will have before/after work and on my days off without school taking up time. No matter what, we always contact each other every day. We text when he's at work and I'm off, message when I'm at work, and talk on the phone or Skype when we are both free. We try to talk on the phone a few times a week and Skype once a week or so.

Being busy I find to be better because it passes the time and helps keep me from missing him as much but it can make it more difficult to talk. We do our best to work around it and really make the most of it when we are able to talk.

[Sora1101]

My SO is wayyyy busier than me He works 60 hours a week while I go to school full time monday-thursday from about 9am-1pm (plus some homework time) and work a part time job from Friday-Sunday about 20-25 hours a week. Although he gets a day off and I don't

We hardly talk at all anymore because when I'm at school he's at work and when he's home I'm at work and by time I get home he's passed out cold. He's able to text a few times here and there when I'm in school and we usually talk for about an hour on the phone on his day off before I go into work. Sometimes he tries to stay up to talk to me when I get home from work and some days I wake up early so we can talk before we're both busy for the day. It's just all about compromise and someone losing sleep.

[dragonlady]

he is busier then me, he got a full time job and i only part time and he has a lot of friends ect
i get up early to talk to him before he goes to bed, am back home when he gets up and he manage to come online to talk to me in his brake before i got to bed so i consider myself lucky

[OperaDiva]

Definitely him, he has two jobs and he is finishing up his thesis, while I only just started my PhD - which means I take some classes, I teach a little and I write a lot, but I make my own schedule most of the time

[differentcountries]

In the season, he is busier than me, he works from 8-8 most days, even on my visits, and I guess I will stay a lot at his restaurant so I can see him. He is also supposed to study. I work 9-3 most days in Norway and then I have a writing week with him in Turkey . So I am definetely busy, but my time is more flexible than his. Off season, I am busier than him because I have work while he has flexible time he can use for studies, extra work or visits.

[Jaac]

I think he's the busier one. He works 6 to 7 days a week, about 8 - 10 hours a day.
When he's free he does little things around the house, goes to gym or goes mountainbiking, or sleep
I go to uni, where my days vary from 10 hours to 2 hours a day, but usually I'm busy with school for 40 hours a week.
Then on saturday I have a weekend job at a butchery from 8 till 18:00.

wait... It sounds like my life is actually busier haha.
I guess it's pretty equal then. The only difference is that I (most of the time) like what I'm doing.
While he h's got a horrible job that he hates...
Yeah I think its quite equal, but his days are more monotonous than mine.

We often chat when he's at home and I have some free time in the morning.
When he's had a long day, he goes to bed pretty early so we only get to say goodmorning and goodnight.
We're supposed to skype every sunday, but that's a bit of a problem at the moment.
He doesn't have acces to internet (well, he does have a contract on his phone, but that's not enough mb to skype)
I hate internet when it doesn't work...

[Riyko]

Me, I'm in the process of moving, along with starting up some internships and I make and sell crafts on the side, he doesn't do anything just sits around with friends all day long

[TwoThree]

In terms of work I'd say about the same, though we go through phases in which one is busier than the other. As for life outside of work, I'd say he's slightly busier, given that he lives alone, has to do his own grocery shopping and cook and clean and all that. I have more free time in that regard since I live with my family.

[Malaga]

He has 9 hours of very high pressure every day but he never works the weekends. My work day is usually slightly less packed and stressful (except ahead of deadlines) but I work almost every weekend and usually stay longer hours.
When it comes to social life, I think we're about the same. There are times when he's more social and times when I am. I enjoy that kind of dynamics.

[Zapookie]

We're both pretty busy, but recently my SO has been full on stressed out because of how little time he has. He often works from 9 til 6 or 7pm and doesn't get home til late as he takes the bus because his scooter tyre popped. It sucks, we barely get to talk to each other these days.

[Sanja]

We both have busy lives, but he works two jobs while I have my weekends off. Even though his days are long and he feels tired most of the time, we always find time to talk in the evening and we stay in touch throughout the day.

[François]

We are both busy. She have a full time job and she study at the same time, and I have my own company to manage.
But we always find time to talk. Their is 7 hours differences and I wake up every night at 1.00 am to talk with her when she wake up in the morning and we talk again when I wake up in my morning cause it's her lunch break and finally we talk during my lunch break cause she is already back home. We do it every week days and we can talk more during the week end when she don't have classes.
This routine helps us to endure the distance because, unless unforeseen, we always know when we can talk again.

[jana89]

We are both busy in our own ways. I study, finishing university, so there is lots of pressure because of finals etc. My SO works a lot, he has two jobs. But we still manage to talk almost every night, at least for a little while, so it is doable even with two busy schedules.

[temporaryuser]

my SO is far busier. He is finishing grad school (17 credits) graduates in Aug with a masters in nursing. He also works ft as a firefighter/paramedic and pt as a police officer
we text sporadically thru the day and talk when we can. This semester has been brutal with the courseload.
I am a mobile pet groomer and have a 10 yo son that plays baseball. I also foster for a dog rescue, so we always have a litter of puppies to care for. My schedule is flexible, but I try to stay busy.
Thankfully when SO graduates he will be moving here. We just have to get thru the next 4 months