Long Distance Help (Urgent!) :(

[LavenderLilac]

Thank you, everyone who posted in this forum!! You have no idea how much you have helped me. This is such a kind and understanding forum community. It really warms my heart. I have to say that it has been a little over two months since the breakup and he has not bothered to contact me. I think he was just letting me off "easily" (if there is such a thing) like everyone else said. Why I think this is because he seems quite proud to be on his own and also it seems he isn't busy enough to not go to Greece on holiday this summer from what his facebook pictures show...

Over-all I feel betrayed and hurt because I really flew oceans just to see this guy and got to know his family and friends who were all really lovely. Maybe some people think the grass is really greener? He's really young and has a bit of an ego in which he always thinks he knows better so I don't think he will ever contact me. The way he even dumped me two days before my exams, it seems he has zero respect for me. I had a really tough first year in college because my major is really tough and was immature at times. Also, I was depressed as well, but I feel the right guy would have understood...and it's not my fault because I was willing to talk things out like a proper adult.

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Thank you, everyone who posted in this forum!! You have no idea how much you have helped me. This is such a kind and understanding forum community. It really warms my heart. I have to say that it has been a little over two months since the breakup and he has not bothered to contact me. I think he was just letting me off "easily" (if there is such a thing) like everyone else said. Why I think this is because he seems quite proud to be on his own and also it seems he isn't busy enough to not go to Greece on holiday this summer from what his facebook pictures show...

Over-all I feel betrayed and hurt because I really flew oceans just to see this guy and got to know his family and friends who were all really lovely. Maybe some people think the grass is really greener? He's really young and has a bit of an ego in which he always thinks he knows better so I don't think he will ever contact me. The way he even dumped me two days before my exams, it seems he has zero respect for me. I had a really tough first year in college because my major is really tough and was immature at times. Also, I was depressed as well, but I feel the right guy would have understood...and it's not my fault because I was willing to talk things out like a proper adult.

You're absolutely right. You deserve proper treatment; you were willing to handle things maturely, but he did not. I'm sorry this happened to you, but you seem to be healing. Take time for yourself and go out and do things with other people. Remind yourself how awesome life is, and appreciate other people in it. I'm here if you want to talk

[merlinkitty]

Thank you, everyone who posted in this forum!

I'm glad you're feeling better about everything it gets better, day by day I'm glad you checked in, as well it's heartwarming to know things are looking brighter for you

[Miasmata]

Good to hear you handled this the right way and that you are not blaming yourself. No matter how a relationship wears out, any trouble, especially a breakup should always be handled with good communication and respect. Shame he didn't have the character to do that. It's definitely not your fault.

Best of luck for your future!

[LavenderLilac]

I was just wondering what I should do about this situation...The day after the break-up I foolishly said I would wait for him and made a big deal about it. Should I message him and tell him I'm not or should I just leave it? I just don't want to be stuck as a door-mat, but don't want to say something out of anger/revert my healing process. What do you guys think I should do?

[OperaDiva]

You are only a doormat if you act like one. There is no reason to contact him if you really are focusing on yourself and your healing. It might be that you getting in touch would sound like you are still hung up on him and are trying to make him jealous / get him back. Just live your life and move forward this guy is in your past, so just leave him there!

[SaraHonRara]

I totally agree with OpreaDiva, if he havenīt contacted you in two months you dont need to contact him either. Just live your life, and leave him in the past!