At the beginning of April this year, I sent a friend request to a girl on FB from North-America. She has mutual friends of mine, as it happens. Sending friend requests to people that I don't know in real life is not something that I do ordinarily, and what's more is, she also said to me she doesn't normally accept them either when outside her immediate social circle. However, since then she stated that she's so glad that she did accept the friend request as we've become so close.
So anyway, I message her to say hi, and thanks for accepting my friend request. And she asked me who I was etc, and I explain to her that I'm good friends with a guy that plays in the same band of one of her friends. So she says, okay cool.
She seemed a little less forthcoming initially—which is understandable given that I was a stranger—but nevertheless she was engaging and friendly. As I've gotten to know her over the course of the last two months, we've become so close. She's shared with me such personal things about her life and family, and vice versa. I feel I've really gotten to know her so well.
We often talk for hours, practically every night, sometimes for 8 hours, early into the morning for me because of the time difference, as I live overseas in the UK. she always says how much she loves talking to me, and is more often than not, the first one to initiate our conversations. Sometimes she's even pretended to message me by accident
She always laughs ay my jokes and tells me how funny I am even when I feel they're some of my bad ones lol. She's incredibly funny though. I've found we share such a great deal in common and we both write poetry and we're both musicians also. I appreciate the differences in her points of view and tastes as well.
So anyway, she asked to see some of my poems, and she liked them a lot it seems, she even kindly translated them into her native tongue, french.
I was so moved by this gesture and how much it's meant to me to confide in someone like her that I took it upon myself to send her a thoughtful gift. I wanted it to be a nice surprise, so I had to do it without her knowing. She had sent me a photo of the view from her window at work. And from this I saw the names of shops on the street opposite. so I googled their names, and I found out the name of the place that she worked. lol very stalker like behaviour I know hahaha, but she was very touched by this. So I had some flowers sent to her workplace with a poem attached. What's funny is, they made a mistake at the company and sent her roses twice lol. She seemed so happy with them. She sent me the photo of it when they arrived, and she said it's the nicest thing anyone has done for her. She wrote me a poem later on expressing her gratitude. She said she is not used to such attention. She sent me some drunk text messages saying that she missed me, and then asked me to recite some poems in english, which I did, and she told me that my voice was sexy.
So I was really glad that the gifts that I sent her were received favourably.
Anyway, for many years I've thought about visiting my friend over there. And recently he said to me about considering relocating over there permanently. so I looked into it, and I feel like i would be really happy over there.
So I mentioned to her that I am planning to visit her city in September, and meet my friend. And I said I'd really like to meet you too. and she said of course, and mentioned that she would show me around and see some nice places that she knows. a few nights later I talked with my friend over there, and he said his friend that is a good friend of hers said she's the nicest girl you can hope to meet.
I've really grown fond of her of her over the last few months, despite having never met her in person yet. I really have a good feeling about her. There are a number of reasons why I refrain from a lot of what I'd like to tell her. Besides the obvious distance, and it being hard to truly know what our chemistry would be like in real life.
We've both been hurt by others before, and I can understand if she has the same reticence toward such things. So I'll be going over there in September, and later on I intend to move there permanently. I was just wondering what your thoughts are on this.
UPDATE: I've since spoken to her, and asked her if she wants to meet me in her city, but also if she wanted to go for a few days to a city close to hers for a few days, and she said yes, and that maybe she'd be able to get a day off work or two to go with me, and that's we'd to go to a few places in her city first.
I met a girl here last year online , through mutual friends in my town, and asked her out, but gave up after awhile as she was ignorant. I didn't develop the same kind of warm feelings that I h`ve with this one though and after a day or two, I forgot about her as she was a selfish. I honestly thought it would've worn off by now with this girl. Whenever I see photos of her, i'm moved so strongly, and whenever we speak, I know how she's feeling.
These last few days, she's been very busy, and we've still chatted whilst we've both been at work, and left messages for each other. I'm just worried I might cause offense to her if I spend time offline to give her space, as she says she misses me. There's so much I want to say, but I don't want to do it this early, I'd rather tell her after we meet. She's said to me before that she's become more rational with time, and prudent and that you can't really know or love someone until you live with them, which I understand and agree with. I've also noticed that when we talk about each other's ex's, her replies are brief if I mention mine, or women that have expressed interest in me.
Do you think it's possible that she has feelings for me? Even now whenever she sees me online, she initiates our conversations.
So anyway, I message her to say hi, and thanks for accepting my friend request. And she asked me who I was etc, and I explain to her that I'm good friends with a guy that plays in the same band of one of her friends. So she says, okay cool.
She seemed a little less forthcoming initially—which is understandable given that I was a stranger—but nevertheless she was engaging and friendly. As I've gotten to know her over the course of the last two months, we've become so close. She's shared with me such personal things about her life and family, and vice versa. I feel I've really gotten to know her so well.
We often talk for hours, practically every night, sometimes for 8 hours, early into the morning for me because of the time difference, as I live overseas in the UK. she always says how much she loves talking to me, and is more often than not, the first one to initiate our conversations. Sometimes she's even pretended to message me by accident
She always laughs ay my jokes and tells me how funny I am even when I feel they're some of my bad ones lol. She's incredibly funny though. I've found we share such a great deal in common and we both write poetry and we're both musicians also. I appreciate the differences in her points of view and tastes as well.
So anyway, she asked to see some of my poems, and she liked them a lot it seems, she even kindly translated them into her native tongue, french.
I was so moved by this gesture and how much it's meant to me to confide in someone like her that I took it upon myself to send her a thoughtful gift. I wanted it to be a nice surprise, so I had to do it without her knowing. She had sent me a photo of the view from her window at work. And from this I saw the names of shops on the street opposite. so I googled their names, and I found out the name of the place that she worked. lol very stalker like behaviour I know hahaha, but she was very touched by this. So I had some flowers sent to her workplace with a poem attached. What's funny is, they made a mistake at the company and sent her roses twice lol. She seemed so happy with them. She sent me the photo of it when they arrived, and she said it's the nicest thing anyone has done for her. She wrote me a poem later on expressing her gratitude. She said she is not used to such attention. She sent me some drunk text messages saying that she missed me, and then asked me to recite some poems in english, which I did, and she told me that my voice was sexy.
So I was really glad that the gifts that I sent her were received favourably.
Anyway, for many years I've thought about visiting my friend over there. And recently he said to me about considering relocating over there permanently. so I looked into it, and I feel like i would be really happy over there.
So I mentioned to her that I am planning to visit her city in September, and meet my friend. And I said I'd really like to meet you too. and she said of course, and mentioned that she would show me around and see some nice places that she knows. a few nights later I talked with my friend over there, and he said his friend that is a good friend of hers said she's the nicest girl you can hope to meet.
I've really grown fond of her of her over the last few months, despite having never met her in person yet. I really have a good feeling about her. There are a number of reasons why I refrain from a lot of what I'd like to tell her. Besides the obvious distance, and it being hard to truly know what our chemistry would be like in real life.
We've both been hurt by others before, and I can understand if she has the same reticence toward such things. So I'll be going over there in September, and later on I intend to move there permanently. I was just wondering what your thoughts are on this.
UPDATE: I've since spoken to her, and asked her if she wants to meet me in her city, but also if she wanted to go for a few days to a city close to hers for a few days, and she said yes, and that maybe she'd be able to get a day off work or two to go with me, and that's we'd to go to a few places in her city first.
I met a girl here last year online , through mutual friends in my town, and asked her out, but gave up after awhile as she was ignorant. I didn't develop the same kind of warm feelings that I h`ve with this one though and after a day or two, I forgot about her as she was a selfish. I honestly thought it would've worn off by now with this girl. Whenever I see photos of her, i'm moved so strongly, and whenever we speak, I know how she's feeling.
These last few days, she's been very busy, and we've still chatted whilst we've both been at work, and left messages for each other. I'm just worried I might cause offense to her if I spend time offline to give her space, as she says she misses me. There's so much I want to say, but I don't want to do it this early, I'd rather tell her after we meet. She's said to me before that she's become more rational with time, and prudent and that you can't really know or love someone until you live with them, which I understand and agree with. I've also noticed that when we talk about each other's ex's, her replies are brief if I mention mine, or women that have expressed interest in me.
Do you think it's possible that she has feelings for me? Even now whenever she sees me online, she initiates our conversations.
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