He ended things

[squeeker]

Aww noo I'm sorry to hear that! I hope you get an explanation but either way, I hope you heal from this and I wish you all the best in the future.

[differentcountries]

I am sorry to hear this. It is possable he is not able or willing to explain himself to you. I would not push it if I was you. Are you even sure you want to hear his reasons?

[JaneEmily]

I am sorry to hear this. It is possable he is not able or willing to explain himself to you. I would not push it if I was you. Are you even sure you want to hear his reasons?

Even if she fears his reasons, I think it'd be better for her if she was told them. We all deserve to know why someone ended something to get closure, to move on or to possibly patch things up with the SO. Regardless the truth will always hurt, but just because someone doesn't want to hear something said, I think it's something everyone needs to hear when a relationship has suddenly ended/or broken down

[differentcountries]

Even if she fears his reasons, I think it'd be better for her if she was told them. We all deserve to know why someone ended something to get closure, to move on or to possibly patch things up with the SO. Regardless the truth will always hurt, but just because someone doesn't want to hear something said, I think it's something everyone needs to hear when a relationship has suddenly ended/or broken down

Ah, the idea that truth shall set you free. The problem with truth in break-ups is that usually it is nowhere to be found. I pressed my ex for reasons, and I deeply wish I never had. Not only was what I was told hurtful as well as comfusing, but all of it was not true either ("I never really loved you" are things that exes like to say to themselves and their ex to justify leaving, because "I loved you once, now all of a sudden I don't, I have not idea what happened to my feelings" makes the person breaking up seem stupid).

Everyone THINKS they "deserve" and "need" to know the reasons why, and that there even are real reasons to be told and that the person breaking up is able to communicate those real reasons. They cannot imagine how much they can actually be hurt in addition to the break-up, and also that it will probably make no sense to them anyway.

The real closure for me came years later, in a book where I read about people acting like her, and why, a type of closure she would never had been able to give me herself.

[nottheprincesspeach]

I got off the phone when he was being cold because it just didn't sound like him. I knew something was off with work, but didn't think anything was off with us. He gave me very vague reasons. Something is going on that he doesn't want to talk to me about. I already told him last night that I didn't really understand and would appreciate if he ever felt like explaining. It really feels like something ELSE came up and it was too much for him. Instead of talking to me about it he just decided to give up. It really really sucks, but I'll be okay.

[MyHeartsInScotland]

Oh no, I'm so sorry chicka.

When you feel up to it, definitely ask him why he ended things so abruptly. Maybe you can salvage it (if you want to), but he sounds like a bit of a jerk for leaving you out in the cold with no explanation.

No one deserves to be treated that way. Especially you. You should be treated so much better than that.

When you're ready to take the next step and need advice and support. We're here for you.

[whatruckus]

Ah, the idea that truth shall set you free. The problem with truth in break-ups is that usually it is nowhere to be found. I pressed my ex for reasons, and I deeply wish I never had. Not only was what I was told hurtful as well as comfusing, but all of it was not true either ("I never really loved you" are things that exes like to say to themselves and their ex to justify leaving, because "I loved you once, now all of a sudden I don't, I have not idea what happened to my feelings" makes the person breaking up seem stupid).

Everyone THINKS they "deserve" and "need" to know the reasons why, and that there even are real reasons to be told and that the person breaking up is able to communicate those real reasons. They cannot imagine how much they can actually be hurt in addition to the break-up, and also that it will probably make no sense to them anyway.

The real closure for me came years later, in a book where I read about people acting like her, and why, a type of closure she would never had been able to give me herself.

I can agree with this, but at the same time I still wanted to know.

Either way, it really sucks to get dumped when you still love the person. I think you do need an explanation because of the way that he acted and how handled himself. It was completely immature, rude, and insensitive. At the same time though, who needs him? If he's going to act that way all of a sudden, and drop you for no good reason, then you don't need to be with him. Surround yourself with your friends and family, and you'll feel a lot better. Who knows, you might even meet someone else who will take care of you.

[Hollandia]

I can agree with this, but at the same time I still wanted to know.

Either way, it really sucks to get dumped when you still love the person. I think you do need an explanation because of the way that he acted and how handled himself. It was completely immature, rude, and insensitive. At the same time though, who needs him? If he's going to act that way all of a sudden, and drop you for no good reason, then you don't need to be with him. Surround yourself with your friends and family, and you'll feel a lot better. Who knows, you might even meet someone else who will take care of you.

I would want to know to. I also think if he ever truly cared as much as he said he did, he would feel he owed it to her. I think it is a coward's way out and an excuse to walk away and leave someone in the dark 'for their own good'. That's crap. That's not your call, my own good is what I decide it is, otherwise you have just made a decision for me that was not your place to make.

When I was 16, I broke up with a guy that had been my friend because I hated the way he kissed but did not want to tell him so I just cut him off. I ran into him years later and told him the truth and he said it was a shame he would have loved to have remained friends in spite of it. He was happily married by that time and I realized I really screwed up on having a really great guy in my life. I think most of the time honestly is the best policy and tbh this is why me and my very blunt SO get along so well.

[loveknowsnodistance27]

Wow, I'm surprised to hear this. I'm so sorry dear. Time heals all hearts and I am here for you if you need anything.

[emsimes]

I'm sorry, girl!
Leaving you hanging like that was not cool of him at all. You definitely deserve an explanation. Take care of yourself, and remember that we are here for you!

[beachgirl123]

I'm sorry! I know what you're going through and it sucks! I think an explanation would help with closure. Hopefully you'll get that at some point.

[Heavenly_Love12]

I'm sorry to hear this! I hope you'll take time for yourself and do things that make you happy during this time! Please remember that you gave it your all and that you did not do anything wrong! In time he may tell you why he felt the need to end things but focus on yourself, your happiness, and healing.

[Ahava]

I'm so sorry this happened to you

[TwoThree]

I'm really sorry

[sad_neko_123]

I know how that feels...... I still love my LDR ex boyfriend but we still talk to each other and were planning to write letters to each other, Maybe we CAN work things out.... *sighs*