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    Suppose to close the distance...then life happened

    We were so close to closing the doors on our LD life. 1 1/2 weeks and I was going to make the move to Florida. Then BAM; The world turns upside down. My grandmother gets terribly sick and is diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer (the 5th person in my family to have cancer; we've lost 3, including my father). My grandmother is the light in our family and I knew I couldn't leave now.
    I am a registered nurse, so I decided to stay here to care for her. I'm managing her medications and giving her shots. However, my heart was ripped apart. After 10 years, we were going to close the distance and now it has been pushed back further. I found out today that I was granted my RN license in Florida that I applied for AFTER I gained my license in my home state (which was about a month ago). I broke down crying. There was so much that had been done and things checked off the list to finally make the move. Being granted my RN license in Florida felt like a kick in the gut.

    I'm scrambling around trying to get a RN job in my home state. I had an opportunity and the guy claimed he'd love to have me on the team, he loved my interview, and that I'd be hearing from their human resources for an offer. Something has to go right, right?!
    I get an email this morning saying I was no longer considered for the position. I was deflated. I don't understand what went wrong. Should I call and ask why? The nurse manager said that he definitely wanted me on his team...and I get this email. I plan to call...what could have happened?

    My SO has become hesitant about moving out here to be with me while all of this goes down and I don't know why. Everything has become completely chaotic and I feel like I'm losing my mind. I felt like I could turn to my LFAD family and help get this out. I've always been one to keep pushing the family and I forward and have always tried to keep the positivity. I'm a major "silver-lining" person. I've had to learn how to do that because we've been knocked down with many sad, terrible things in my life before. Now, I feel like it's hard to put one foot in front of the other and I rather just stay in bed forever...

    *~*~*Forever & Always*~*~*

    #2
    I'm so sorry to hear this. If you ever need to talk, you can message me. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts!

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      #3
      I'm so sorry to hear that
      I thought of you and the years and all the sadness fell away from me - Pink Floyd

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        #4
        I'm really sorry, that's an awful situation I hope the chaos dies down, and things become clearer for you, wishing you the best.
        Our separation of each other is an optical illusion of consciousness. ~Albert Einstein

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          #5
          Originally posted by ashleecarol View Post
          We were so close to closing the doors on our LD life. 1 1/2 weeks and I was going to make the move to Florida. Then BAM; The world turns upside down. My grandmother gets terribly sick and is diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer (the 5th person in my family to have cancer; we've lost 3, including my father). My grandmother is the light in our family and I knew I couldn't leave now.
          I am a registered nurse, so I decided to stay here to care for her. I'm managing her medications and giving her shots. However, my heart was ripped apart. After 10 years, we were going to close the distance and now it has been pushed back further. I found out today that I was granted my RN license in Florida that I applied for AFTER I gained my license in my home state (which was about a month ago). I broke down crying. There was so much that had been done and things checked off the list to finally make the move. Being granted my RN license in Florida felt like a kick in the gut.

          I'm scrambling around trying to get a RN job in my home state. I had an opportunity and the guy claimed he'd love to have me on the team, he loved my interview, and that I'd be hearing from their human resources for an offer. Something has to go right, right?!
          I get an email this morning saying I was no longer considered for the position. I was deflated. I don't understand what went wrong. Should I call and ask why? The nurse manager said that he definitely wanted me on his team...and I get this email. I plan to call...what could have happened?

          My SO has become hesitant about moving out here to be with me while all of this goes down and I don't know why. Everything has become completely chaotic and I feel like I'm losing my mind. I felt like I could turn to my LFAD family and help get this out. I've always been one to keep pushing the family and I forward and have always tried to keep the positivity. I'm a major "silver-lining" person. I've had to learn how to do that because we've been knocked down with many sad, terrible things in my life before. Now, I feel like it's hard to put one foot in front of the other and I rather just stay in bed forever...
          I am so sorry this has happened. Cancer is such an awful thing, and does so much damage to the one who is sick, and to their family. It can really disrupt lives, too. But it can also bring you closer together.

          The fact that your RN license has been granted in FL, and, at the same time, you can't get a job where you are, could be a silver lining. Maybe you aren't meant to stay there, and your destiny is in FL with your SO. Don't give up now, so close to the finish line! Look at this as just a temporary setback. You are not supposed to stay with your family forever, and the time is coming that you need to be with your SO, no matter what. You two have worked and waited long enough! Don't give up now! It sounds to me like the Universe is on your side.

          Just keep on as you have, staying in contact with him as much as you can. You need his support now, not necessarily that he should move to be with you, but I'm sure he will support you in other ways as he always has. Maybe he could just come and visit you.

          It sounds like you are at a cross-roads and need to make some tough decisions. You and your SO have a right to have a life together, too.


          TWO HEARTS BEATING AS ONE, LOVE BRIGHTER THAN THE SUN...

          Nothing Can Keep Us Apart, Safe In Each Other's Heart

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            #6
            I hope things settle for you soon, sounds like an awful situation all round.

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              #7
              im sorry that all sounds so stressful i hope thinga turn around

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                #8
                Definitely call. That's horrible move for a prospective employer. I'm sorry all of this happened!
                When two hearts are meant for each other, no distance is too far,
                no time is too long, and no other love can break them apart.

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                  #9
                  I am really sorry to hear this happened to you.
                  Hope things turn around for you and your SO.

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