hey folks.
I need to pick your brains for this one.
My S/O and i have been together for 9months now, though we had a month break inbetween. (long story to write about it here)
My S/O used to have this huge crush on his childhood friend for 5years and he loved her. Till today, she is the only girl he ever truly loved. Ok, he never dated much and his longest relationship lasted for 6months (oh well). We have never said "I love you" to each other yet, i guess it takes longer for a LDR and "Love" to him means a big deal. Even though he loved her, he never actually said "I love you" to any girl till today.
The thing about this girl is that his Best friend has been dating her sister for 9years. The whole bunch of them have been friends since elementary school (they are all in their mid 20s now). He drifted apart from them for 2years but are now back to being close friends with the group.
The girl, lets name her Kay, is in a 5year relationship with her current boyfriend. She never returned my s/o love or crush, she was never interested in him only saw him as a brother. My S/O and her used to be best friends (my poor baby got friend zoned).
Now he is trying to get back to being friends with her again (he is only close to his best friend and not the girls). They both went out on a luncheon just the two of them and thought it was nice to be friends again like they were before.
ALRIGHT
Question time: He wants to continue to have these "one on one catch up with her", not weekly but regularly. Do you think it is wise for him to do it? do you think its a recipe for disaster?
A little more info: he has said that he only sees her as a friend now, all feelings from the past has been laid to rest. i am the only one he wants and he would not give me up for anything. She will always be a part of his life and i am ok with that, the whole bunch of them have been friends since forever and i am glad for them. he is a great guy because he is surrounded by amazing people.
My feelings: I am not worried about him still having feelings or wanting to see if he can get her attention. but i am curious about why he feels the absolute need to reconnect with her again. he seems very insistent on the get-togethers. My only fear comes in because he used to love her and i dont want him to get hurt again or start to question our relationship (which i know he wouldnt do).
I need to pick your brains for this one.
My S/O and i have been together for 9months now, though we had a month break inbetween. (long story to write about it here)
My S/O used to have this huge crush on his childhood friend for 5years and he loved her. Till today, she is the only girl he ever truly loved. Ok, he never dated much and his longest relationship lasted for 6months (oh well). We have never said "I love you" to each other yet, i guess it takes longer for a LDR and "Love" to him means a big deal. Even though he loved her, he never actually said "I love you" to any girl till today.
The thing about this girl is that his Best friend has been dating her sister for 9years. The whole bunch of them have been friends since elementary school (they are all in their mid 20s now). He drifted apart from them for 2years but are now back to being close friends with the group.
The girl, lets name her Kay, is in a 5year relationship with her current boyfriend. She never returned my s/o love or crush, she was never interested in him only saw him as a brother. My S/O and her used to be best friends (my poor baby got friend zoned).
Now he is trying to get back to being friends with her again (he is only close to his best friend and not the girls). They both went out on a luncheon just the two of them and thought it was nice to be friends again like they were before.
ALRIGHT
Question time: He wants to continue to have these "one on one catch up with her", not weekly but regularly. Do you think it is wise for him to do it? do you think its a recipe for disaster?
A little more info: he has said that he only sees her as a friend now, all feelings from the past has been laid to rest. i am the only one he wants and he would not give me up for anything. She will always be a part of his life and i am ok with that, the whole bunch of them have been friends since forever and i am glad for them. he is a great guy because he is surrounded by amazing people.
My feelings: I am not worried about him still having feelings or wanting to see if he can get her attention. but i am curious about why he feels the absolute need to reconnect with her again. he seems very insistent on the get-togethers. My only fear comes in because he used to love her and i dont want him to get hurt again or start to question our relationship (which i know he wouldnt do).
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