LDR cheated when drunk

[R&R]

I no longer blame myself, he confessed to cheating on me on a separate occasion months ago with my one true friend out there or so I thought. the point he started to feel depressed when I so desperately tried to be a good girlfriend and help him through a dark phase. He doest need saving he can save himself
I'm still talking to him and will make my decision when I see the supposed man of my dreams

The moment he fessed up on it all a weight on my mind was lifted...I have done nothing wrong these past months

So now he's confessed to cheating on you twice? Oh, sweetie, now you've got two red flags waving out there. It is time to let go and move on.

[Hollandia]

He cheated with your friend?

Leave him. That alone shows he puts his wants over hurting you.

[whatruckus]

Twice? Nope. I'm sorry, but he's never going to change and never going to be fully committed to you. He's already proven that. There's nothing for you to wait and see about. He is not the "man of your dreams". If he was the man of your dreams, he never would've cheated.

Take it from someone who has experience, sweetie. I was with my ex for 5 years too. Didn't mean jack. He never changed. Also, we lived only 40mins from each other and he cheated (three times! Not counting all the other girls he flirted with). They never change.

[differentcountries]

I agree with above posters that his recent confession is another red flag.You should not be relieved you have done nothing wrong, you should be scared his depression is making him impulsive, reckless and in a bad position to take care of your needs. I am actually pro that you curb his drinking, alcohol might enhance even a tiny depression, I have curbed my husband's drinking several times for this reason. No person is dream stuff but you need to make sure he is real stuff, that he is willing and able to make changes.