Hi folks,
I don't normally post on forums about my personal life...but here goes.
I live on the West coast, she lives on the East Coast.
Middle of this year, I was at my friends' wedding (two close longtime friends of mine got married). There, I met the cousin of the bride, and we INSTANTLY clicked.
I was going through a difficult time at work at the time and could not come see her. I ended up inviting her to my close friend's wedding up in NYC in August, and she agreed.
We spent an amazing weekend together, first at the wedding, then white water rafting 1 on 1 the following day. I came to her door with a HUGE teddy bear, flowers for her, and flowers for her mother (she's finishign school in a few months). We kissed, yadayada, and she asked me to go to NYC with her again as our second date.
Second date time comes around, but I had to postpone 2 weeks ago, and she had was caring, understanding, and comforting, saying she'd come see me in NYC no matter when I could make it.
We settled on a new date, which is in 2 weeks...and I was able to 100% confirm that I would be able to go.
Now, the issues:
She's very introverted, and admitted straight up to me that she doesnt communicate well. She sometimes doesnt answer her friends for 3-4 hrs on end.
If I call her spontaneously, she doesnt pick up the phone, and either texts later or calls. However, she is a completely different person, a ball of fire, yet a cute, romantic, sweet girl, when we Skype once a week.
The issue I am struggling to understand, is...why am I doing ALL the initiating. In the span of 4 months, she initiated by suggesting we go white water rafting on day 2 of our first date, and maybe has initiated conversaiton with me once if I didnt message her for 2-3 days. I don't want to feel like I'm being strung along, and yet I know she's an introvert.
Some people around me thinks its odd that she doesnt skype with me more than once or twice a week, some other people say its perfectly fine. I'm struggling, because I want to ask her to formally be exclusive in NYC, as it is our favourite city in the world. I know she isnt seeing anyone as is, and a girl wouldnt waste her time with an LDR with a guy if she wasnt interested, at least that's my take on it.
I'm constantly afraid to be clingy. Last week she was sick, tired, and stressed...so I gave her space, and over the weekend she became talkative and lively again via text. Iv sent her simple romantic messages, saying "miss you", or little things here and there. When she went through a rough patch at school I had an edible arrangement delivered to her home. This week she feels sick/tired again and asked to postpone our skype date, and when I suggested to skype tomorrow she wholeheartedly agreed. I texted her today simply saying I hope she is feeling better and got some sleep, but I constantly second-guess what I say to her when we don't skype. Over skype, its so easy and we just mesh. When we aren't skyping im constantly afraid I'm messaging too much or coming on too strong if I message her every other day or so, I'm just confused because it is so topsy-turvy.
Any advice would be appreciated. Does she like me?Does she not and is having trouble saying no?
Based on the fact that she kissed me multiple times during the course of our first date, offered the NYC trip, was so understanding when I postponed our trip, and isnt seeing anyone else I want to believe she does like me. Am I being delusional?
I don't normally post on forums about my personal life...but here goes.
I live on the West coast, she lives on the East Coast.
Middle of this year, I was at my friends' wedding (two close longtime friends of mine got married). There, I met the cousin of the bride, and we INSTANTLY clicked.
I was going through a difficult time at work at the time and could not come see her. I ended up inviting her to my close friend's wedding up in NYC in August, and she agreed.
We spent an amazing weekend together, first at the wedding, then white water rafting 1 on 1 the following day. I came to her door with a HUGE teddy bear, flowers for her, and flowers for her mother (she's finishign school in a few months). We kissed, yadayada, and she asked me to go to NYC with her again as our second date.
Second date time comes around, but I had to postpone 2 weeks ago, and she had was caring, understanding, and comforting, saying she'd come see me in NYC no matter when I could make it.
We settled on a new date, which is in 2 weeks...and I was able to 100% confirm that I would be able to go.
Now, the issues:
She's very introverted, and admitted straight up to me that she doesnt communicate well. She sometimes doesnt answer her friends for 3-4 hrs on end.
If I call her spontaneously, she doesnt pick up the phone, and either texts later or calls. However, she is a completely different person, a ball of fire, yet a cute, romantic, sweet girl, when we Skype once a week.
The issue I am struggling to understand, is...why am I doing ALL the initiating. In the span of 4 months, she initiated by suggesting we go white water rafting on day 2 of our first date, and maybe has initiated conversaiton with me once if I didnt message her for 2-3 days. I don't want to feel like I'm being strung along, and yet I know she's an introvert.
Some people around me thinks its odd that she doesnt skype with me more than once or twice a week, some other people say its perfectly fine. I'm struggling, because I want to ask her to formally be exclusive in NYC, as it is our favourite city in the world. I know she isnt seeing anyone as is, and a girl wouldnt waste her time with an LDR with a guy if she wasnt interested, at least that's my take on it.
I'm constantly afraid to be clingy. Last week she was sick, tired, and stressed...so I gave her space, and over the weekend she became talkative and lively again via text. Iv sent her simple romantic messages, saying "miss you", or little things here and there. When she went through a rough patch at school I had an edible arrangement delivered to her home. This week she feels sick/tired again and asked to postpone our skype date, and when I suggested to skype tomorrow she wholeheartedly agreed. I texted her today simply saying I hope she is feeling better and got some sleep, but I constantly second-guess what I say to her when we don't skype. Over skype, its so easy and we just mesh. When we aren't skyping im constantly afraid I'm messaging too much or coming on too strong if I message her every other day or so, I'm just confused because it is so topsy-turvy.
Any advice would be appreciated. Does she like me?Does she not and is having trouble saying no?
Based on the fact that she kissed me multiple times during the course of our first date, offered the NYC trip, was so understanding when I postponed our trip, and isnt seeing anyone else I want to believe she does like me. Am I being delusional?
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