My bf and i have been together since the first of July. We started out really strong -constant texts, phone calls, We each felt like the other was "the one" and started making plans to meet and work out long term arrangements. (We are 4000 miles apart). He would always make sure i had good morning /evening/nite texts, as well as several texts thru the day just to say i love you, I'm thinking of you, etc.
Over the last month, those texts have stopped -he says he "is so busy " but he thinks of me all the time. The phone calls have dropped to every couple days, again because he is so busy. We use whatsapp a lot, and he will do voice messages often, and when he does, his phone is constantly beeping. I've mentioned it to him before about the beeping, kind of made a joke about it -don't all that beeping make you crazy kind of thing, and he said it was his family. So i let it go-but i had serious doubts that was all his family.
This past weekend, i found out he joined badoo, created a profile and started talking to other women. When I asked about it-he said it was not a big deal and he was doing it to improve his dutch. He said he would delete it and not talk to them anymore.
I feel like he is having second thoughts but don't want to tell me. I also think that he has other girlfriends on the side. I don't know what else would explain the drastic change in his behavior.
I guess i am just at a loss as to what to do. This is my first ldr-and i don't have anyone to talk about this with, since my close friends disapprove of the relationship because of the distance, the cultural differences (I'm American, he's Arabic ).
Thanks for listening, and and advice that anyone has to offer. I appreciate it.
Over the last month, those texts have stopped -he says he "is so busy " but he thinks of me all the time. The phone calls have dropped to every couple days, again because he is so busy. We use whatsapp a lot, and he will do voice messages often, and when he does, his phone is constantly beeping. I've mentioned it to him before about the beeping, kind of made a joke about it -don't all that beeping make you crazy kind of thing, and he said it was his family. So i let it go-but i had serious doubts that was all his family.
This past weekend, i found out he joined badoo, created a profile and started talking to other women. When I asked about it-he said it was not a big deal and he was doing it to improve his dutch. He said he would delete it and not talk to them anymore.
I feel like he is having second thoughts but don't want to tell me. I also think that he has other girlfriends on the side. I don't know what else would explain the drastic change in his behavior.
I guess i am just at a loss as to what to do. This is my first ldr-and i don't have anyone to talk about this with, since my close friends disapprove of the relationship because of the distance, the cultural differences (I'm American, he's Arabic ).
Thanks for listening, and and advice that anyone has to offer. I appreciate it.
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