Frustrated...

[pytsip]

ok, so my boyfriend got home Tuesday night around 12:30, I have been waiting for him to get ahold of me since I know the first few days were hectic with the funeral and everything. But I know that he told a few of his friends that he wanted to do something Thursday night, however the only thing that he even told me was that we'd see each other, he has made no effort to find out what my school schedule, work schedule etc is. I was supposed to close at work (meaning working until 2:30am at least) all this weekend, and if I wouldn't have switched, that's two days that i wouldn't have had free to be with him. He doesn't even know this, and I just don't understand how he can say "we'll see each other" when he doesn't even make any attempt to figure out when that could be...

[paulawriteslove]

Can you somehow call him? And say 'heyy how's everything going? so when can we hang out?' Maybe you have to make the first move to hang out with him. Don't get frustrated with him yet. Try getting a hold of him first.

[junnah]

you know what, my husband is sometimes like that also. if i feel like i am almost out of his priorities already, i got frustrated but i do the first move, since he is a real busy i always texted him and reminded him how happy i am whenever we talked online.

[Karringtyn]

Hmmmm....I can only imagine your frustration.....have you tried calling him? I truly hope things turn around and you are able to spend some quality time together

[pytsip]

I have tried calling him, I sent him a text message yesterday and he said we'd see each other, but he made no attempt to figure out when that would be, I tried calling him today, and he didn't answer. I'm just frustrated because it's like if I didn't get these shifts picked up, I would not be able to spend time with him, and obviously he made no attempt to figure out when I'm working or anything, it's just frustrating and I feel like all these people at work have gone out of their way to help me out and he's just taking me and then for granted.

[Karringtyn]

Awww I am sooo sorry!!!! I hope tomorrow you can see him and things will be great!!! Hang in there....I know you must be truly frustrated....

[LadyMarchHare]

If he isn't taking the initiative to say when you'll talk/see each other, you need to take the reins. When he says that say "Ok I'll see you at x time" and if he protests, ask what's good for him. Having something left as an 'I don't know' like that between you will hurt you in the end, I think. It's already frustrating you. One of you needs to be assertive on the when of that and then compromise when the details for you don't fit the details for him.

[Silviar]

He's probably not thinking about that, sweetie. I mean, the funeral just happened. Why don't you email him your schedule or suggest a few times to him so you can see each other?

[noodle]

I agree with everyone, just call and ask him if he has time. I also think that his mind is everywhere but in place cause of the funeral and everything. All the best

[pytsip]

That's why I'm frustrated, I have called, and he hasn't answered, I have texted him and he doesn't text back, I don't know how to even ask him when we're going to hang out because he is just plain ignoring me.

[pytsip]

I just talked to him, he told me he can't do the long distance relationship thing anymore... :-(

[leonina]

Are you okay? Was there a real valid reason that he gave you for suddenly wanting to end it?-

<3 My thoughts are with you

[pytsip]

he just said that these past 4 months have been hard on both of us and that he doesn't want to go through it and doesn't want to put me through it for at least another year, basically he wants to break up, but he said that when he comes home he wants to try again. I'm one of those people that once we break up, it's over, if you can't commit to me now, then why should I trust to commit to you later? I don't know, he did all this over facebook, I have still yet to see him and I told him I think that we definitely need to sit down and discuss it, and he said that he's willing to do that but it's probably not going to change anything. And no, I'm not okay, I put so much into this relationship and to have it all just ripped away without warning is tearing me up.

[kraut]

Oh man I know the feeling! What I normally do is just talk to him about it. Sometimes, in order to push a little I will make it seem like I am slightly busier than I really am. There is no reason why you should just have to wait around until he is ready to hang out. It is not fair to you to have to wait around, because of course you don't want to be in the middle of something when he finally is ready!

[Tanja]

Wow that seems like a sudden decision on his part.... Maybe he's still upset about the funeral and just needs some time and space to think things through. Everything might seem like a big effort to him right now, especially a LDR but I'm sure once you sit down and talk face to face he'll see that he shouldn't throw your relationship in the bin.

I wish you all the best and I hope things will work out between the two of you ♥