we talked last night, he said that he just doesn't know who he is, and he doesn't want to be in a relationship, basically told me that he wants to be friends and wants to work on the relationship when he finally comes home. I asked him why he thought the relationship and friendship would be any different if we both had feelings about each other and he asked me why I thought being friends would be different. I told him that if I have feelings for him, the conversations that we have are going to lean towards the relationship end of things and that I just didn't understand that if he felt the same way how he thought that being friends would be better. I told him I was even open to trying to work things out in the sexual aspect of our relationship while he was gone and he said it's not about that at all, its just the emotional aspects of the relationship that he didn't want to deal with right now. I basically told him that if we remained friends and he still had those feelings for me, that whether we're friends or not the emotional aspects are going to be there. I told him that I think we just need to work on the communication, and I actually pulled in what some of you start-out ldr couples have said about the really getting to know each other on an emotional level because of the strong need for communication. He finally agreed to think about it, we have a night set aside for just me and him to spend together on tuesday, and I think we're going to talk about it more. I think he's finally understanding that it doesn't matter if we're friends or not, that the feelings are there and that it's ultimately going to be as though we're in a relationship because of it whether we have the title or not. I really hope we can talk through this, I really don't want to lose him, and I really want to be there for him as he finds out who he is through all this. The only scary part is that I finally found out how long it's going to truly be until we are together again, 3-4 years. 
he plans on traveling to Mexico after China, and a few other places, and he wants to do it on his own so that he can "find himself" which I think is great, but I still want to be there, I want to be the support for him to grow as a person and I want him to know that no matter what, I'm going to love who he becomes.
he plans on traveling to Mexico after China, and a few other places, and he wants to do it on his own so that he can "find himself" which I think is great, but I still want to be there, I want to be the support for him to grow as a person and I want him to know that no matter what, I'm going to love who he becomes.
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