My SO and I primarily communicate via instant messaging. He prefers that over email, and we only Skype once or twice a week due to his busy work schedule.
I find that sometimes our conversations via messages are mostly me being the one trying to engage the conversation, asking questions about his day, etc. He then answers usually short responses, but rarely responds with questions about me. Basically, I'm carrying the conversation, and if I stopped, the conversation would just die quickly. Maybe it's because he might be tired, but sometimes it feels nice to have him ask how my day was.
This was the situation today, and this was when he was at home not working, so I don't know why he wasn't that engaged in our conversation. I feel like I'm making all the effort, basically. I am so irritated by it. Sometimes I feel that he doesn't show any curiosity in my life or interests as I am in his.
I feel really frustrated, and I have a feeling if I brought it up he would be totally oblivious to the fact he comes off this way.
And what makes it difficult is he's really sweet in that he uses terms of endearment and says sweet things, but his lack of curiosity I just find annoying sometimes. Like I wrote a blog post that was published for work and I was proud of it, and sent him the link. He hadnt read it for weeks until I asked him what he thought of it, and he was all like, oh I haven't read it yet. Anything he does I'm interested in, and maybe he's just too busy rather than being not interested, but it does hurt my feelings.
Anyways, I just needed to come here and vent.
I find that sometimes our conversations via messages are mostly me being the one trying to engage the conversation, asking questions about his day, etc. He then answers usually short responses, but rarely responds with questions about me. Basically, I'm carrying the conversation, and if I stopped, the conversation would just die quickly. Maybe it's because he might be tired, but sometimes it feels nice to have him ask how my day was.
This was the situation today, and this was when he was at home not working, so I don't know why he wasn't that engaged in our conversation. I feel like I'm making all the effort, basically. I am so irritated by it. Sometimes I feel that he doesn't show any curiosity in my life or interests as I am in his.
I feel really frustrated, and I have a feeling if I brought it up he would be totally oblivious to the fact he comes off this way.
And what makes it difficult is he's really sweet in that he uses terms of endearment and says sweet things, but his lack of curiosity I just find annoying sometimes. Like I wrote a blog post that was published for work and I was proud of it, and sent him the link. He hadnt read it for weeks until I asked him what he thought of it, and he was all like, oh I haven't read it yet. Anything he does I'm interested in, and maybe he's just too busy rather than being not interested, but it does hurt my feelings.
Anyways, I just needed to come here and vent.
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