thinking about starting again with ex after break up

[Spazzo246]

OK so we broke up about 8 months ago. The break up didnt end on bad terms, it was a compliation of her not bieng emotionally stable for a relationship. Since then we are still friends and talk occasionally

The problem is she was my first girlfriend. I still think about her everyday. And how great it was that to have someone who loves you so much. I have thought about asking her of she wants to try again but i really dont known if its a good idea or not

Any input would be greatly appreciated

[p_b82]

Unless she is emotionally more stable, then it is not going to be a good idea.

TBH, I would say just move on, and meet some-one new. You can always remain friends with the Ex if you want to remain in contact with her

[Honour]

I stayed in touch with my ex to some degree. However, after much deliberation, I removed him from any form of contact he might have with me. It was for the best. I'm not saying you should do the same; if you are both still in close contact, and she has managed to pull herself around, then why not give things a second chance? I believe in giving the benefit of the doubt to people, however. And this is the biggest point to consider. Can someone truly pull themselves together in a few months? I know, after a recently very emotional time, that it took me well over a year before I could say I was pulling myself together fully. It may not be such a good idea.

On the other hand, I can also speak from experience that my current SO has pulled me up and his support through my emotional and depression-fueled times has been a godsend. I would not be in as good a frame of mind as I am right now were it not for him. And perhaps you could consider this when making your decision; maybe she NEEDS your love and support, but is afraid to ask for it. For you. Maybe she needs YOU to make that notion reality.

Either way, good luck!

[Sarah96]

Unless she is emotionally more stable, then it is not going to be a good idea.

TBH, I would say just move on, and meet some-one new. You can always remain friends with the Ex if you want to remain in contact with her

I agree with this. If you're saying she is emotionally unstable, would you really want to deal with that again? Yes in 8 months people can change a significant amount, but maybe you should continue to keep her as a friend. If you start dating again and realize she is still not emotionally stable, would it be worse ending it again? The first girlfriend/boyfriend is one that most people always remember, just like your "first" anything else. Since you two broke up only 8 months ago, you should try moving on first and finding someone new. Everything happens for a reason, if you two are meant to be together, you will be... but for now, try meeting new people maybe.

Wish you the best with whatever you decide

[barb757]

chances are if she didn't get any help to improve her situation it's probably not a good idea. people do change and if that's the case everyone deserves a second chance. you know how she is. is there improvement? if not then i wouldn't do it.