Feeling shallow right now. Ugh.

[vicks5721]

I also did the love languages test, and I know for me gifts has never been really important at all, I value quality time and acts of service and words of affiliation.

[whatruckus]

When I see him this weekend, I'll see if I can muster up the courage to bring it up. Maybe leave a few Etsy pages, or something, up on my laptop so he'll see them. Lol.

I have found nice rings and stuff on Etsy. They're not diamonds, since that's not really important to me, but they're nice. I found a bunch for less than $100, which is definitely doable for him. So, we'll see.

[differentcountries]

Oh, you are going for the hint? Sure he takes hints LOL

I am hoping SO gets me jewlery for Valentine as well as my birthday. I am thinking about telling him I would like some Turkish style jewlery (earrings or neckless) with coloured stones, which I am sure he could get at a reasonable price (just saw something really goodlooking online for just 30 dollars, and that is even import), and there would be lots of styles and sizes to choose from so I would not dictate what he should buy. He could even chip in with my husband on something if he wanted to. We will probrably celebrate lots of birthdays at once when he comes; mine, my husband's and SO's- and Valentine, too.

[whatruckus]

I've decided to go with making wishlists and sending them to him. Hahahaha. If he says something negative, or pokes fun, I'm just going to be like, "I just wanted to see what your reaction was going to be... "

[differentcountries]

A wishlist isn't such a bad idea... I might phraze it like that, so it doesn't sound like I am ordering something from him - a wish, that is what it is. And I can use the excuse that I miss Turkish stuff....I have almost never bought jewlery in Turkey, I have just brought something simple from Norway, I guess I would feel sort of guilty, like I was flashing my money in front of him. I might buy myself some jewlery when I go back. Even so... I might make him a wishlist like: I wish for Turkish teas, dark chocolate spread and...hm, something I can wear to make me think of your country!

[R&R]

I've decided to go with making wishlists and sending them to him. Hahahaha. If he says something negative, or pokes fun, I'm just going to be like, "I just wanted to see what your reaction was going to be... "

My SO probably wishes I'd make a wish list so he'd have some idea of what to get me for birthdays, Christmas, etc LOL

[whatruckus]

Lol, I feel like with this way, he'll know what I want, but at the same time there's no pressure really And, it'll give him ideas of types of things I like.

[R&R]

Perfect!

[lucybelle]

Let me say I went through this exact same thing with my SO!!! He thinks he's so good at giving presents, he's not. One year he wanted to buy me a pair of work shoes, really? Anyways.

I started by giving heavy hints like looking up jewelry and showing it to him. Telling him I love jewelry. Spending time browsing jewelry every time we went shopping. No go. Finally, I told him- please get me earrings for valentines day. And he STILL DIDNT GET THEM! I continued to pester him and eventually he surprised me with some earrings. That's the only piece of jewelry he's ever bought for me (except my wedding ring).

So if your SO is as dense as mine, tell the knucklehead to buy you some jewelry!!

[whatruckus]

Let me say I went through this exact same thing with my SO!!! He thinks he's so good at giving presents, he's not. One year he wanted to buy me a pair of work shoes, really? Anyways.

I started by giving heavy hints like looking up jewelry and showing it to him. Telling him I love jewelry. Spending time browsing jewelry every time we went shopping. No go. Finally, I told him- please get me earrings for valentines day. And he STILL DIDNT GET THEM! I continued to pester him and eventually he surprised me with some earrings. That's the only piece of jewelry he's ever bought for me (except my wedding ring).

So if your SO is as dense as mine, tell the knucklehead to buy you some jewelry!!

I'm lmao. You told him straight up that you wanted earrings and he still didn't get the hint? Oh jeeze, I think I'd smack mine for that, but knowing him he'd be like, "I don't remember you saying that?" "Selective hearing" I say to him sometimes, hahaha

[differentcountries]

Maybe you can put it to him in writing. That way, if he rereads his texts he will be reminded.

[Miasmata]

My SO loves being sentimental, but he's also really forgetful, so he often just forgets to get me something. Seconding the idea that he should write it down if he has issues with being forgetful, it makes remembering things much less stressful! A wishlist on Amazon or selfwritten is really useful.