Its over

[Eva Britt]

Oh well, making a long story short... My SO broke up with me December 18. Merry Christmas.
The reason is that he is going back to his ex wife, cuz he ows the kids to try once more, he says.
There are a lot of things and other stuff to this whole story, and in my eyes, another disaster, but if I should type all that I would need hours...

So I just wanted u all to know that this fairytale isn't gonna happen after all.
Im devastated and broken to pieces.

And oh btw, we are still friends that talk every day, cuz he asked me to stay as his friend. And silly me said yes.
So it hurts even freakin more, like a wound that never gets a chance to heal....

Oh well, it is what it is, right?

-Eva-

[Honour]

Really sorry to hear this. Poor excuse on his part, sorry. Listen, I know this might hurt, but you need to space yourself from him for awhile. If not for good. YOUR wishes come first, not his. And if he can't respect that, then that's his problem. Please heed me on this. I was in an LDR for 3 years until my ex broke up with me because "your bad health will never allow you to come see me." I'd been saving up to see him the following year. I made the mistake of staying friends with him; all the bastard wanted was one thing.

My words might seem as harsh ones, but I speak the truth. I'm gonna send you all the hugs I can, stranger from the UK attempting to help in some small manner at least. Chin up. You can do it.

[Sarah96]

I'm sorry you're going through that maybe you should tell him you need some time to yourself? Maybe it's not a good idea to keep talking to him everyday if it's making you feel bad. You should spend some time alone and take care of yourself. I wish you the best!

[Eva Britt]

Really sorry to hear this. Poor excuse on his part, sorry. Listen, I know this might hurt, but you need to space yourself from him for awhile. If not for good. YOUR wishes come first, not his. And if he can't respect that, then that's his problem. Please heed me on this. I was in an LDR for 3 years until my ex broke up with me because "your bad health will never allow you to come see me." I'd been saving up to see him the following year. I made the mistake of staying friends with him; all the bastard wanted was one thing.

My words might seem as harsh ones, but I speak the truth. I'm gonna send you all the hugs I can, stranger from the UK attempting to help in some small manner at least. Chin up. You can do it.

Yea, I know that would be the right thing to do here. But I just cant imagine my days without talking to him, and neither could he. He has become a huge part of my life, and I don't think I can stop talking to him at this moment. He is my very best friend, and truth be told, I hope he figures out that his decision about going back to his ex, is wrong and will not last. Only putting his kids thru more pain... But that's my opinion. She is an ex for a reason...
But I know, holding on to a thin thread of hope...

Thx for the hugs tho!

[differentcountries]

I am sorry this happened to you.

You may be friends with him, but be truthful towards yourself at least if you want his back, and don't pretend you are ok becoming his friend. It is ok to be jealous and upset. It is up to him to choose to go back to his ex wife, but him using his kids as an excuse is childish if you ask me...

Anyway, more hugs coming your way!

[Honour]

Yea, I know that would be the right thing to do here. But I just cant imagine my days without talking to him, and neither could he. He has become a huge part of my life, and I don't think I can stop talking to him at this moment. He is my very best friend, and truth be told, I hope he figures out that his decision about going back to his ex, is wrong and will not last. Only putting his kids thru more pain... But that's my opinion. She is an ex for a reason...
But I know, holding on to a thin thread of hope...

Thx for the hugs tho!

Quite honestly, I hope he figures it out too, men can be so silly at times. Please take care of yourself, and consider yourself above all else right now. Try not to dwell too hard on the matter, and if you'd like someone to speak to, feel free to message me

[leditbe]

I am so deeply sorry for what you have been through...
It's always harder when something like this has to happen from such a great distance.
You're a brave person, deciding to accept this unfortunate circumstance and continue to be friends with him. Personally, I don't think I would be willing to do that in this case.
As a matter of fact, I had a similar situation happen to me. Before I met my fiance, I was involved in a long distance relationship which lasted one summer. In the end, he decided that he wouldn't be able to look past his ex-girlfriend back home, and thus we fell apart.
It was extremely heartbreaking, and though I don't think I really loved him, I was definitely hurt.

The best advice I can give is to stay strong, girl! It's not exactly easy, I know; but if you focus on the future and the possibilities it will bring to move on, you won't feel so down. You might even find the person you're going to spend your life with (that's what happened to me!) I know you can do it.

Best Wishes.
-A

[whatruckus]

Yea, I know that would be the right thing to do here. But I just cant imagine my days without talking to him, and neither could he. He has become a huge part of my life, and I don't think I can stop talking to him at this moment. He is my very best friend, and truth be told, I hope he figures out that his decision about going back to his ex, is wrong and will not last. Only putting his kids thru more pain... But that's my opinion. She is an ex for a reason...
But I know, holding on to a thin thread of hope...

Thx for the hugs tho!

It's always hard at first, trust me, then...you get used to it. I was with my ex for 5 years before he dumped me for good. I learned the best thing for me to do to move on is to cut him off. Done. I did that even to the boy I dated in high school for only 3 months. I know I will never be on friendly terms with my ex, too many bad things went on that he did to me, but the boy I dated in high school? We're friends again.

[R&R]

I'm so sorry. I know you've been through a lot and kept the faith through it all.

In all honesty, he's the one making out in this. He will be around his kids full time. He will have his ex around to meet all of his physical needs. And then he has you, hanging on in case things don't work with the ex. Oh, and if I recall, she knows nothing about you, so he's starting this reconciliation lying to her because I'm sure he's not going to tell her about you now. He gets his cake, gets to eat it and have a little ice cream on the side.

It's not going to be healthy for you. You need a chance to step back and grieve the relationship and let yourself move forward cleanly, not hanging onto something that might never happen.

[Miasmata]

So sorry to hear this. I hope you will take good care of yourself, you deserve it now more than ever. You and only you should be top priority now, not any what ifs with him.