Hi everyone
Before I start a bit of background for you: my so and I have been together for a bit more than two years now. I'm from Germany, he is from the UK. We usually see each other every month for a few days. At the moment I am with him for six months (yaay ) for an internship. Well actually the six months are over soon, I will leave at the beginning of April.
Now why I write this:
Although I have been here for about 4 months now I still feel a bit like I am only a visitor. Not because of our relationship itself (living together works out quite well and we are happy) but more because of social contacts. I haven't managed to build any new friendships on my own here. He introduced me to some of his friends and sometimes I come along when they meet after work (they are his colleagues) but even though they are nice, I wouldn't call them my friends. And they would probably refer to me as "his girlfriend" and not as their friend too. that they are all working together and mostly talking about things I don't know anything about isn't very helpful either I guess.
so when he is meeting his friends, I either come along or sit at home by myself. It has caused a few arguments because of course he doesn't always want to bring his girlfriend along but on the other hand I don't want to spend my Friday nights alone...
to be fair I am a quite shy person when it comes to making new friends. It's not the easiest thing for me even in my own country. But I really tried hard! I just gave up after some very disappointing attempts.
can anyone relate to the situation I am in?
I thought it would be difficult to fit in my so's world and build my own social life but I didn't think it would be that hard! And I don't think it would change even if I stayed for longer due to how things are going at the moment.
the thing is, this long time didn't quite motivate me to come back to his country to live here. Of course I want to be with him but I can't feel lonely for the rest of my life!
the plan is that he comes to Germany (maybe this year.. hopefully!) But eventually we have to decide where we would like to settle down.. and at the moment I couldn't imagine living here just because of the social life.
And I really really tried as hard as I can!
Sorry for the long post! It's just on my mind a lot.
Before I start a bit of background for you: my so and I have been together for a bit more than two years now. I'm from Germany, he is from the UK. We usually see each other every month for a few days. At the moment I am with him for six months (yaay ) for an internship. Well actually the six months are over soon, I will leave at the beginning of April.
Now why I write this:
Although I have been here for about 4 months now I still feel a bit like I am only a visitor. Not because of our relationship itself (living together works out quite well and we are happy) but more because of social contacts. I haven't managed to build any new friendships on my own here. He introduced me to some of his friends and sometimes I come along when they meet after work (they are his colleagues) but even though they are nice, I wouldn't call them my friends. And they would probably refer to me as "his girlfriend" and not as their friend too. that they are all working together and mostly talking about things I don't know anything about isn't very helpful either I guess.
so when he is meeting his friends, I either come along or sit at home by myself. It has caused a few arguments because of course he doesn't always want to bring his girlfriend along but on the other hand I don't want to spend my Friday nights alone...
to be fair I am a quite shy person when it comes to making new friends. It's not the easiest thing for me even in my own country. But I really tried hard! I just gave up after some very disappointing attempts.
can anyone relate to the situation I am in?
I thought it would be difficult to fit in my so's world and build my own social life but I didn't think it would be that hard! And I don't think it would change even if I stayed for longer due to how things are going at the moment.
the thing is, this long time didn't quite motivate me to come back to his country to live here. Of course I want to be with him but I can't feel lonely for the rest of my life!
the plan is that he comes to Germany (maybe this year.. hopefully!) But eventually we have to decide where we would like to settle down.. and at the moment I couldn't imagine living here just because of the social life.
And I really really tried as hard as I can!
Sorry for the long post! It's just on my mind a lot.
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