Hi
I'm 19, my ex boyfriend is 20. We met at a penpal site, known each other for 2 1/2 years and I broke up with him a month ago due to lack of communication after 14 months of our relationship. At the day I called it off he said that he just hasn't been in the right mind due to some diseases that he's had. I won't tell what the diseases are for his privacy, it is kind of serious but he really doesn't care about it(, maybe because he just can't accept his situation.) After that I sent him some treatments for his disease, he said thank you and hadn't heard from him for a while. And then this month I came to the states, called him, expecting that we could hangout together, but my parents are very negative when it comes to penpals they won't approve of it. My father even doubts his name... So during my visit to the states (which ends at the end of the month,) I won't be able to see him but we still text and sometimes talk on the phone when my parents aren't home. Everything went really cool and I felt kinda comfortable talking to him. Yesterday, while talking on the phone, he told me that he's had two girlfriends in a month since our breakup, and now he's in a relationship with this girl who lives five minutes away from where he works. Of course I was shocked I mean honestly I still have feelings for him. They both met at his store 'cause she always goes there. He used to go out with her little sister but broke up with her because of her personality and then he started talking to her big sister which would be his current girlfirend and he thought she was cool and they both started dating a few days ago. (Her little sister aka his ex girlfriend doesn't seem to know about it btw.) Anyways, he told me that they both have nothing in common but his gf said that they can work things out and he worried that she only likes him because of his appearance. And the reason why he's worrying about that is because one of his disease is related to his appearance and he's scared that she might walk away once she realizes it.
We talked and talked and since I just couldn't understand how he could move on so fast after being in an ldr with me for so long so I said "wow 3 girls in a month?" and then he said "well yeah I just turned 20, I'm still young and I wanna use my advantage(his looks) as much as I can before I get old and this disease gets worse"(well not exactly this but i think you guys catch my drift. He usually goes after another girl after a breakup and things don't work out with his new girlfriends so he breaks up with them too. His mind is like that of a teenage boy, I know I know but I still like him anyway..) And then we kept talking till my father came in. A few minutes later he texted me so we kept texting, and then he told me that he misses me as his girlfriend and that I'm very genuine and that I have a good heart. I told him that I miss him as my boyfriend too 'cause that's how I actually felt but then I got confused. If he misses me as his girlfriend, why be with his new girlfriend instead of me? Should I honestly ask him?
Btw he also said he is still friends with some of his exes,not only me.
I'm 19, my ex boyfriend is 20. We met at a penpal site, known each other for 2 1/2 years and I broke up with him a month ago due to lack of communication after 14 months of our relationship. At the day I called it off he said that he just hasn't been in the right mind due to some diseases that he's had. I won't tell what the diseases are for his privacy, it is kind of serious but he really doesn't care about it(, maybe because he just can't accept his situation.) After that I sent him some treatments for his disease, he said thank you and hadn't heard from him for a while. And then this month I came to the states, called him, expecting that we could hangout together, but my parents are very negative when it comes to penpals they won't approve of it. My father even doubts his name... So during my visit to the states (which ends at the end of the month,) I won't be able to see him but we still text and sometimes talk on the phone when my parents aren't home. Everything went really cool and I felt kinda comfortable talking to him. Yesterday, while talking on the phone, he told me that he's had two girlfriends in a month since our breakup, and now he's in a relationship with this girl who lives five minutes away from where he works. Of course I was shocked I mean honestly I still have feelings for him. They both met at his store 'cause she always goes there. He used to go out with her little sister but broke up with her because of her personality and then he started talking to her big sister which would be his current girlfirend and he thought she was cool and they both started dating a few days ago. (Her little sister aka his ex girlfriend doesn't seem to know about it btw.) Anyways, he told me that they both have nothing in common but his gf said that they can work things out and he worried that she only likes him because of his appearance. And the reason why he's worrying about that is because one of his disease is related to his appearance and he's scared that she might walk away once she realizes it.
We talked and talked and since I just couldn't understand how he could move on so fast after being in an ldr with me for so long so I said "wow 3 girls in a month?" and then he said "well yeah I just turned 20, I'm still young and I wanna use my advantage(his looks) as much as I can before I get old and this disease gets worse"(well not exactly this but i think you guys catch my drift. He usually goes after another girl after a breakup and things don't work out with his new girlfriends so he breaks up with them too. His mind is like that of a teenage boy, I know I know but I still like him anyway..) And then we kept talking till my father came in. A few minutes later he texted me so we kept texting, and then he told me that he misses me as his girlfriend and that I'm very genuine and that I have a good heart. I told him that I miss him as my boyfriend too 'cause that's how I actually felt but then I got confused. If he misses me as his girlfriend, why be with his new girlfriend instead of me? Should I honestly ask him?
Btw he also said he is still friends with some of his exes,not only me.
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