Tough Decisions

[R&R]

I'm so sorry. I'm glad your SO will be there soon to be with you.

[Miasmata]

Take all the time to heal you need now. Your needs come first. My thoughts are with you.

[Ejoriah]

I'm so glad your SO will be with you soon. I've been through a miscarriage personally. If you want to PM me please feel free.

[Harlequin]

I've also had a miscarriage, and extend the offer to PM me as well. Take this time to take care of yourself, and please remember that things will be okay. And like the others have said, I'm glad your s/o is going to be with you soon.

[whatruckus]

I'm sorry hon, and I hope you will be okay.

[Honour]

I actually cried reading this, OP. My mum miscarried 7 times, and it tore her apart. I was a somewhat miracle because she had me much later in life, and never expected it to actually happen. I can't imagine how you're feeling, but for everything that my words are worth, I am truly sorry and know that we are here for you. Big big !

[differentcountries]

Take your time to grieve and be together.

[Dwessie]

[sarbear]

Thank you everyone for your support, it means so much to me. I spent the day in the hospital again and have to go back again on Monday for more testing. Everything is dragging on and I just want to start picking up the pieces but I can't until all the reminders are put behind me. I bought a ring tonight to symbolize the baby I never met but I will always love. I got the birthstone of the month I found out and lost it in. I'm journaling a lot. I'm also starting to engage in some not so good behaviors (i.e. not eating...as a previous anorexic...drinking more...lots of nyquil)...I can't sleep. I wake up for hours on end throughout the night and have baby dreams and I dread the nighttime. This is definitely a process.

[Redheart14]

Hang in there! At least you'll have your SO there soon. Take time to heal. Look after yourself.

[Miasmata]

Keep doing the things you need to heal, eat and drink enough and get fresh air. Every bit of selfcare makes a difference. You got this.

[whatruckus]

Please eat and cut back on your drinking. That is seriously not going to do you any good, and to be honest, the alcohol is going to make the emotions and the nightmares even worse (not that they aren't horrible to begin with). Don't become lost in your grief that you forget who you are.

[Lea-le-Lea]

I'm here for you! While I might have been a bit judgmental while reading the posts, because I do believe that life is very important, I've been quite humbled. However, I know everything happens for a reason. This is something that will calm down over time. Maybe not for a long while, but remember that NOTHING is too much for you to overcome. You are always strong enough to face whatever circumstances come your way. Sorry for the religious bit, but God will never give you anything you can't handle. Now this is your chance to become stronger than you were before. You're already stronger than most of us. Let me put it this way. It's an entirely different scenario, but this is how I made my boyfriend feel good about quitting smoking:

He said to me, when someone asks what his biggest accomplishment is, he's hesitant and doesn't want to say smoking, because he feels like so many people don't smoke, so they don't understand.
So, I said to him, "What people don't understand about smoking, is that they could have gone without it their entire life, and maybe would have been tempted to smoke, but that temptation to smoke was never and will never be as strong as your 'need' to smoke was, because they never got addicted. You have shown the strength enough to fall into the addiction, hit bottom, and claw your way back out. Now that is a feat that a non-smoker will never understand. So you are stronger than them, you are stronger than they will ever be."

I hope you take this and realize, while you didn't choose this, you did overcome it. You are stronger than I will ever be, because I never had to go through a miscarriage. You have felt pains stronger than I have, and still you are here. Take this strength and let it guide you to being a stronger woman, wife, sister, daughter, future mom, and whatever else you aspire to be in this life.

All my love,
Talea

[Ahava]

I just wanted to send some virtual hugs your way

And about IUD's, I have heard of many pregnancies with the copper one. The hormonal one is safer, they say it is almost as safe as sterilisation.