Hi, everyone. I am new to this loving from a distance. I came across this site as I was looking for some advice and probably tips on what to do in LDR, and this is the site came up first.
So, here's the thing. I'm not new to LDR. My boyfriend and I have been dating for more than a year now, 18 months to be exact. He's from Florida and I am from the Philippines. We haven't met in person yet but we already talked about seeing each other in the future. We have no specific date yet but we're looking at next year since we both have to save up for this plan. We're both 26 years old and are working to support our families which makes it hard for us to save. But we're trying and waiting.
But just lately, he's been very busy. So busy that we don't have time to talk or even chat. He's working 2 jobs now so he can support his mom and his brother since his step dad died. He's basically the breadwinner now. I really don't have a problem with that, in fact I support his decision to help his mom because I am also helping my parents. But the thing is his situation is so overwhelming and he's getting depressed. He does not open up to me, yet, because I think he's still scared. He's giving me the cold shoulder treatment, he barely talks to me cause I know he's tired and I understand. But one thing bugs me. He said that whenever I say I love you over and over again, he finds it weird and very excessive. I was quite offended cause I used to do that but he didn't have any negative comment. The only reason why I kept saying that it's because I wanted to remind him that he has me, someone who loves him and who will always be there for him who will understand him. He just seems so angry right now that I don't know what to do to make him feel better, I'm too far from him and I can't be there to comfort him physically. It seems that words are not enough to help him now and it seems that he doesn't want anything from me anymore.
I really don't know what to do. He said he's tired of everything and did not explain or said anything yet. I'm hoping that he's not tired of our relationship too. I'm thinking of giving him space. Is that the right thing to do? I'm scared that I might lose him if I did. I don't even know how to say it if it's something that I should do. I'm emotionally tired and weary. I don't want to lose him.
Someone please help me.
So, here's the thing. I'm not new to LDR. My boyfriend and I have been dating for more than a year now, 18 months to be exact. He's from Florida and I am from the Philippines. We haven't met in person yet but we already talked about seeing each other in the future. We have no specific date yet but we're looking at next year since we both have to save up for this plan. We're both 26 years old and are working to support our families which makes it hard for us to save. But we're trying and waiting.
But just lately, he's been very busy. So busy that we don't have time to talk or even chat. He's working 2 jobs now so he can support his mom and his brother since his step dad died. He's basically the breadwinner now. I really don't have a problem with that, in fact I support his decision to help his mom because I am also helping my parents. But the thing is his situation is so overwhelming and he's getting depressed. He does not open up to me, yet, because I think he's still scared. He's giving me the cold shoulder treatment, he barely talks to me cause I know he's tired and I understand. But one thing bugs me. He said that whenever I say I love you over and over again, he finds it weird and very excessive. I was quite offended cause I used to do that but he didn't have any negative comment. The only reason why I kept saying that it's because I wanted to remind him that he has me, someone who loves him and who will always be there for him who will understand him. He just seems so angry right now that I don't know what to do to make him feel better, I'm too far from him and I can't be there to comfort him physically. It seems that words are not enough to help him now and it seems that he doesn't want anything from me anymore.
I really don't know what to do. He said he's tired of everything and did not explain or said anything yet. I'm hoping that he's not tired of our relationship too. I'm thinking of giving him space. Is that the right thing to do? I'm scared that I might lose him if I did. I don't even know how to say it if it's something that I should do. I'm emotionally tired and weary. I don't want to lose him.
Someone please help me.
thank you!
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