I have previously posted a thread about how I felt like like an emotional over thinker.
I took advice from several of you and have come a long way. However, I still fall into the trap of letting my emotions control me and analyzing situations.
Emotions are tied to a lot of hurt and pain daily for me. I understand anger, sadness, happiness are all emotions. I feel anxiety and sadness the most.
Here lately, I have been telling myself that my long distance boyfriend doesn't love, care, miss, or think about me. I understand this is not the healthiest of techniques. I think this is an attempt for me to become emotionally detached from him. I used to feel like I could cry in front of him and that he really cared. I could cry and express myself in that way and he made me feel secure, safe, and protected. I felt like it was ok to cry in front of him.
Now, I feel like my tears don't mean anything to him. Maybe I have cried so much to him that he just sees it as second nature for me. I cried around him the other day out of frustration with something that had to do with me personally. I went to the rest room to suck it up and stop it because I now feel weak, burdensome, and foolish when I cry around him. I do not feel that secure protection from him anymore.
With that being said, I am trying to detach myself from him emotionally. Saying this out loud, it sounds stupid. However, I'm not sure how to become less emotional besides disconnecting from what makes me emotional. What makes me emotional is the constant thoughts of him, missing him, wondering if he misses, loves, cares, or thinks about me.
Does anyone understand what I'm trying to say? Have any advice?
I took advice from several of you and have come a long way. However, I still fall into the trap of letting my emotions control me and analyzing situations.
Emotions are tied to a lot of hurt and pain daily for me. I understand anger, sadness, happiness are all emotions. I feel anxiety and sadness the most.
Here lately, I have been telling myself that my long distance boyfriend doesn't love, care, miss, or think about me. I understand this is not the healthiest of techniques. I think this is an attempt for me to become emotionally detached from him. I used to feel like I could cry in front of him and that he really cared. I could cry and express myself in that way and he made me feel secure, safe, and protected. I felt like it was ok to cry in front of him.
Now, I feel like my tears don't mean anything to him. Maybe I have cried so much to him that he just sees it as second nature for me. I cried around him the other day out of frustration with something that had to do with me personally. I went to the rest room to suck it up and stop it because I now feel weak, burdensome, and foolish when I cry around him. I do not feel that secure protection from him anymore.
With that being said, I am trying to detach myself from him emotionally. Saying this out loud, it sounds stupid. However, I'm not sure how to become less emotional besides disconnecting from what makes me emotional. What makes me emotional is the constant thoughts of him, missing him, wondering if he misses, loves, cares, or thinks about me.
Does anyone understand what I'm trying to say? Have any advice?
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