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[Colourfuldreamsx]

Hey guys hope everyone is well

I was planning on visiting my gf again in October but due to my recent house move I couldn't afford the flights so we scrapped the planned trip. I'm now able to visit her in November for 2 weeks, my gf is meant to be coming here for Christmas at the moment it's not confirmed and she won't find out till October when she's got paid from her new job if she can afford it as obviously flights at Christmas time are ridiculous and are really expensive.

I've mentioned to family and friends that I plan to visit Arizona in November and everyone has said "why don't you wait till she comes here?" I've explained to them that the Christmas trip might not happen but they seem to think I'm daft for flying out to her only for her to be possibly flying over to me a couple of weeks later to spend Christmas together.

I keep telling myself it's my relationship I can do what I like and it's up to me and my gf when we see each other, I'm lucky due to a backpayment from work I can afford to go visit in November but do you guys ever have issues with people making comments about visits or spending money to spend time with your SO? Would you fly to your partner if you knew a few weeks later they were possibly coming to you?

Sorry for the ramble!!

[R&R]

I'm lucky that people generally don't say anything about the money that's spent. We're both adults, our bills are paid, and we budget for visits.

My SO was going to come out this month to visit for a few days and do some work around my parents house. It was going to be close to the end of the month. I just saw him in July and he's going to be here November 7-14. I told him to cancel the trip for this month. I just couldn't see spending extra money if we were going to see each other another 5 weeks after that. We can use that money towards closing the distance next year instead.

But that's just us. If you're not 100% certain about Christmas, I'd do the other visit and if you get to see her at Christmas - bonus!!

[Dwessie]

I say do it! Even if the visits are close, they'll still be exciting, and they're in two completely different places, so it's not the same as having such a short time between identical visits. Plus holidays, those are always great together!

You do you, all the haters can do them, and hopefully you won't all have to do each other

[differentcountries]

There is a reason why I don't tell everyone how often I am going. With us, I pay for all the trips and parts of rent. I don't want questions on how I can afford it. People wondered a lot about my July trip, which was ironic because it was very cheap since I actually stayed the whole month I payed for, food being cheaper in his country. Him coming here will also be cheap since he will stay with us. It is very expensive, but there are lots of things I sacrifice to live this way. I even study when I am with him to get the most out of my stays there. The people who mind my money use, think I am there as fun and staying in hotels.

It is your money. Also, if she pays for her own trip it is not costing you double if the visits are short in between.

[MarsDamnSure]

I'd go for it. As has been said, you'd get to spend time in their environment, see new things, go new places. And in LDR any chance to be together have to be taken imo. If you don't fancy two visits, you could always part fund her coming over for Xmas. But if you go in November you can experience the run up and depending on dates, attend thanksgiving celebrations.

Ultimately, it's your money and relationship and you both know what's best for you both. So long as you're happy that's all that matters.

[snow_girl]

In my experience outsider views are usually less rose colored than your own. As hard as it is, sometimes you have to listen to what the have to say.