Hello! I just found the forum, while searching for some advices and opinions for my situation. So here is the story.
We met this summer through Tinder (a friend told me about it and I was bored at the time, so decided to give it a try). She is 22, I am 25. At first it was just small talk, nothing special, but after some time we started texting a lot and that led to an actual date. I really liked her, she also liked me. You would say - perfect, go for it. The thing is that we are studying in different countries - she is in the UK, I am in Austria (we both are Bulgarians, so we were in Bulgaria for the summer, I will stay a little longer here). An additional obstacle - she was about to go abroad in 2 weeks for her 10 month internship in France. So basically I didn't wanted to start anything serious, because I have already been in a long distance relationship several years back and it ended kind of bad. Anyway, there were another 5 dates and during her last days here something led to "The Talk" and we both agreed that we like each other and we both have the feeling that it was kind of unnatural to end things like that. So we decided to give it a try.
So now she's been gone for 1 week. We talk a lot - texting during the day, video conversations almost every night... And when I see her, how she looks at me - I feel really great. We can talk about everything, she wants to share things with me, she thinks about me. But sometimes there is this thought in my mind that all of this is just a big illusion. And what's the other thing that is bugging me is the fact that she is that kind of person who always wants to go out, to be with people and everything. So basically I am thinking here - am I just her "filler" - the guy that is there, the one that fills the gaps in her free time, the one that she talks with only because she still doesn't know a lot of people there... Meanwhile, for the first time I really have the feeling that I want things to work.
I keep telling myself - just keep it simple, no pressure or anything; but sometimes I tell myself - why do the LDR again...
Thank you for your comments!
We met this summer through Tinder (a friend told me about it and I was bored at the time, so decided to give it a try). She is 22, I am 25. At first it was just small talk, nothing special, but after some time we started texting a lot and that led to an actual date. I really liked her, she also liked me. You would say - perfect, go for it. The thing is that we are studying in different countries - she is in the UK, I am in Austria (we both are Bulgarians, so we were in Bulgaria for the summer, I will stay a little longer here). An additional obstacle - she was about to go abroad in 2 weeks for her 10 month internship in France. So basically I didn't wanted to start anything serious, because I have already been in a long distance relationship several years back and it ended kind of bad. Anyway, there were another 5 dates and during her last days here something led to "The Talk" and we both agreed that we like each other and we both have the feeling that it was kind of unnatural to end things like that. So we decided to give it a try.
So now she's been gone for 1 week. We talk a lot - texting during the day, video conversations almost every night... And when I see her, how she looks at me - I feel really great. We can talk about everything, she wants to share things with me, she thinks about me. But sometimes there is this thought in my mind that all of this is just a big illusion. And what's the other thing that is bugging me is the fact that she is that kind of person who always wants to go out, to be with people and everything. So basically I am thinking here - am I just her "filler" - the guy that is there, the one that fills the gaps in her free time, the one that she talks with only because she still doesn't know a lot of people there... Meanwhile, for the first time I really have the feeling that I want things to work.
I keep telling myself - just keep it simple, no pressure or anything; but sometimes I tell myself - why do the LDR again...
Thank you for your comments!
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