More issues with my online long distance boyfriend- we haven't met yet

[veganchick222]

When we started talking on an online dating site,he told me his iPhone keeps dropping calls when he calls someone and doesn't save contacts so he's left with phone numbers. He said he gets to upgrade his phone September 21 and we used the kik app instead of staying on the site. I tried calling him once and he didn't have a voicemail plus his phone didn't show that called I him until days later and when I tried texting him hi at some point he replied back saying who's this because even though he said he put me down as a contact,all he saw was a phone number

[differentcountries]

Why doesn't he write your phone number down on a piece of paper? I keep all my important contacts in a paper adress book, in addition to contacts on my phone.

It sounds strange that he will fix his phone on a certain date. But September 21st is not far away, I guess time will tell...

[R&R]

Im not stalking him.i just opened up skype last nite and saw him
on and i set myself to invisible long before last nite and i thought he might thought i would skype him and not keep to my word of when hes ready to talk i will listen if i change it to online .. if hes really not on then thats a skype issue but if he is on why cant he answer me what hes feeling..hes just plain out ignoring me after i stated reasons and asked for a break. The kik app is our only form of communication and we skype sometimes.im not on facebook so i never asked his and hes not on any other social media that i know of so i cant see what hes up to even if i was curious.

Let me also note if i haven already that after the first time we skyped he kept asking me to be hes gf and i was telling him we should take it slow but then i just gave in and that was that same day.

No we have not met yet which i stated why above and why would i make plans to move to somewhere else when i know just a notebook page of things about him and he pretty much knows nothing of my life and never asks me anything.

You asking me to speak to him about this is easier said than done because hes been ignoring messages.i have told him what i felt or thought and i get the silent treatment for it.

Read the three things I have bolded. If a friend came to you and told you she or he was in this situation, what advice would you give them?

The more you tell us about the situation, the more I would give the advice to walk away. It's only been two months and all of the issues have come up. This goes beyond a bad phone problem. You got into a relationship you weren't ready for or sure of with someone you didn't know all that well. You have different communication needs. He avoids confrontation and issues. He doesn't show an interest in your life. Why do you want to stay?

[veganchick222]

I was ready for the relationship and wanted it like he did and ready to face any challenges but this is ridiculous and immature of him.when he does decide to answer me back because i told him ill be available when he does choose to talk if he needs time, hopefully he lets me know what hes feeling but regardless of the answer i plan to break up with him.

I dont want to stay now anymore. all this time i thought he was so busy that he couldnt find time to ask me things or anything but now i see theres a bigger issue with him.

I asked him friday nite if we should take a break and still no answer.how long does it take to answer this type of question? I just want to be done with this already

[sasad]

Then be done. Block him and don't respond. He is not being respectful of you at this point. You deserve better and as it has been said, you have only 2 months invested....

[differentcountries]

Yes, two months in is too early to be having this kind of problems... You should be head over heels in love, Skyping every night, bringing forth love in every way.

[veganchick222]

Yes we should be growing.He told me a few skype calls ago he was falling for me and now we're going backwards

[Ella85]

If you are having these type of issues this early on I'd walk away. My boyfriend and I have been together nearly a year and yeah we've had ups and downs but we don't argue (because thats how we are, we talk about it). We don't ignore each other and if either one of us needs space we know we can just say 'I need some time to myself' and the other respects that. I'd walk away he doesn't sound like he wants to be with you very much at all.

[Honour]

Think it's time to pack your bags and move on. Sounds like he already has.

[Miasmata]

If he's really never shown interest in your life, asked you about yourself, and instead just pressured you into going too fast, why is he worth your interest?